pregnancy growing and learning - an uncomfortable comment....

growing and learning

an uncomfortable comment....

05:06 PM, Monday, November 6, 2006 .. 5 comments .. Link
Connie Peterson (aka Spinning Grandma) said something on my last post that started me thinking.  I was going on about how much I love our new house, and she said "I hope you enjoy it as much as you think you will."  what?  how could I not?  I must say I was affronted at her lack of excitement for me.  but, like all bits of true wisdom, the phrase stuck with me, hounding me, and making me think.  Now, instead of being affronted, I am grateful to her.  see, we often think "I will be happy when I have..." - when I am..." "-when ---- happens."  Did I think that having a house this nice, a "yard" this big would be all that I needed to make me happy?  I don't know.  I have felt very happy this past week, but a lot of that has been my satisfaction in a big kitchen, attributed to the excess of sunshine coming through my windows (more in my bedroom here than in my entire house in SLC), and watching the kids run outside.  my dh has started taking ds4 with him in the mornings - a little daddy-son time - to the mailbox at the top of the driveway; then Bug walks home.  We are learning new homekeeping skills, both of us, and I enjoy that.  we are also learning how to use our resources and to plan ahead, after all, we can't just run to the store when we are out of bread.
So, does this new house make me happy?  will it make me as happy as I have thought it will?  I think it will, not because it is my little piece of heaven, but because of what I make of it.  I trust that the Lord will guide my steps to the self-sufficiency of which I dream, and that he will content me with my family and home.  thank you, Spinning Grandma, for your bit of wisdom; that is what I say is the mark of a true friend: willing to tell truths that sometimes cause discomfort, but always make one evaluate the statement.

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05:33 PM, Monday, November 6, 2006 .. Posted by Kitty
And bless you for seeing the wisdom in her comment. A lot of people would have taken it the other way. God bless you and your new home. And as you said, it is always what we make of things.

Kitty

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05:55 PM, Monday, November 6, 2006 .. Posted by homesteadinthemaking
I sooo know what you mean. I catch myself seeing a perfect homestead spot and saying "Oh I wish....". When in reality I am right where God wants me to be and all He wants from me in contentment. How much happier we would be if we were just happy with what we have. I too hope you love your new place.
Blessings,
Trixi

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02:55 AM, Tuesday, November 7, 2006 .. Posted by GrandmaRosie
I understand just how you feel. When we first moved into this house, 18 1/2 years ago, I was in constant amazement and joy looking around at my beautiful home.
A life long dream come true. I was sitting on the end of my bed one day thinking about it all and I felt a nudge form the Lord.
It seemed I could all the sudden see this place a hundred years from now, old, run down a ruin. I got the message, my home was a blessing, but my salvation and the way I raised my children were far more important. HUGS

:)

06:15 AM, Wednesday, November 8, 2006 .. Posted by Jonash2004
I think that we have to keep expectations realistic, and for different people that means different things. I heard a lot of warnings before I tied the knot. Most folks seemed to think I was blinded by love.....because I didn't (and don't) complain about Jay's habits or quirks. So they assumed I "overlooked them".
I knew most of Jay's quirks before we married, and I choose not to dwell on them. There are plenty of things he has to deal with about me. :) We do this because we love each other, not because we are ignorant of the quirk.
I think the same is true of your house. If it's a big deal (roof leaks, electrical) don't overlook it (alchohol, abuse). If it's a "quirk" (not having a coat closet) don't dwell on it unless you can fix it (refuses to turn socks inside out)! (BTW, my mom actually solved both of those "quirks"!)
Nothing and no one is perfect . . . but you can find your perfect "match". It really sounds as though you have found your family's dream home. I am so happy for you! Enjoy your new home!!!!
Ashley

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06:36 AM, Sunday, November 19, 2006 .. Posted by Spinning Grandma
I didn't realize you might have a problem with my comments. I truly am excited for you ... but as you wisely saw ... I did mean for you to realize that all your excitement could fade as you found things that you didn't expect.

I am still excited about MY forever home, but soon found problems that I felt I couldn't live with which made me grumpy. But then learned to overlook the little ones and work on the big ones, which makes me excited and happy again.

And you are right - so many people look to the future - "I will be happy when ....." "I can't wait until ....." and don't learn to be happy in the moment.

You have been looking forward to this move for so long that I was afraid you would now look to the future, not the moment. But you ARE looking at the moment.

Blessings.................



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