A Sunny Place

If We Only Understood - a true vintage article

This is truly a must read - if you are willing - I really appreciated it and should read it monthly myself!!

Mrs. Brown was queer.  The neighbors all thought so and, what was worse, they said so.

Mrs. Fuller happened in several times, quite early int he morning, and although the work was not done up, Mrs. Brown was sitting leisurely in her room or else she would be writing at her desk.  Then Mrs. Powers went through the house one afternoon, and the dishes were stacked back unwashed, the bed still airing, and everything "at sixes and sevens," except the room where Mrs. Brown seemed to be idling away her time.  Mrs. Powers said Mrs. Brown was "just plain lazy" and she didn't care who heard her say it!

Ida Brown added interesting information when she told her schoolmates, after school, that she must hurry home and do up the work.  It was a shame the neighbors said, that Mrs. Brown should idle away her time all day and leave the work for Ida to do after school.

Later, it was learned that Mrs. Brown had been writing for the papers to earn money to buy Ida's new winter outfit.  Ida had been glad to help by doing the work after school so that her mother might have the day for study and writing, but they had not thought it was necessary to explain to the neighbors. 

I read a little verse a few years ago entitled, "If We Only Understood," and the refrain was,

We would love each other better, if we only understood...

I have forgotten the author and last verse, but the refrain has remained in my memory and comes to my mind every now and then when I hear unkind remarks made about people.

The things that people do would look so differrent to us if we only understood the reasons for their ctions, nor would we blame them so much for their faults if we knew all the circumstances of their lives.  Even their sins might not look so hideous if we could feel what pressure and perhaps suffering had caused them.

The safest course is to be as understanding as possible, and where our understanding fails, to call charity to its aid.  Learn to distinguish between persons and the things they do, and while we may not always approve of their actions, have sympathy and feeling of kindness for the persons themselves.

It may even be that what we consider faults and weaknesses in others are only prejudisces on our own part.  Some of us would like to see everybody fitted to our own pattern, and what a tiresome world this would be if that were done. We should be willing to allow others the freedom we demand for ourselves.  Everyone has the right to self-expression.

If we keep this genial attitude toward the world and the people in it, we will keep our own minds and feelings healthy and clean.  Even the vigilance necessary to guard our thoughts in this way will bring us rewards in better disciplined minds and happier dispositions.

Written by Laura Ingalls Wilder December 1917