Don't Compare~ It is when you compare that you despair. It is when you compare that you see all the bad & blemishes. So my advice: Don't do it.
Each family, mom, child, and situation is different and should be handled differently. It's only when we get our eyes off the target that we falter. Peter did when he walked on the water. For one brief moment he took his eyes off Jesus and looked around at his situation and was frightened about it and you know the rest of the story (if not read it in Matt. 14:22-33).
What one person is good at another person may not be. Why? Because that's the way God made it. We were created unique "fearfully and wonderfully made" (Ps. 139:14). We can't all be the eye, or the ear or whatever. We all work together to be one -- homeschool group. (I Cor. 12 - sure this scripture in I Cor. 12 is talking about in the church but it can apply to home, school, and organizations, etc.)
Everyone is different and learns differently. I have on daughter that loves being in the kitchen, sewing, crafts, etc.... Another daughter that could careless about learning to cook and stuff but she loves her music and is moving up the ladder in her job. She is 16 and a shift supervisor. And loves it! One is a very fast reader (speed reader almost) the other likes to read but is slow and steady. One loves history; One loves mysteries. One struggled getting the basic math facts the other picked it right up. So compare- They're different, But both must be loved and respected for who God made them to be.
So maybe they don't fold the towels the way I do, or put away the dishes or wash the dishes the same way as me, maybe they don't do things the way I do. It's been hard but I've had to learn to keep my mouth shut about how they do things differently than I. Just accept it and be glad they are putting in the effort and learning it. My way isn't the only way or the right way to do things which goes hand in hand with next point......
You can't do it all so let them do things their way to lighten your load a bit. It is very important to know the essentials be grounded in them and for a spice-of-life add some non-essentials. However, know the essential importance of saying, "No" when you need to. Everything don't have to be done by you.
Cherish those moments when everything is going well, and some one says, "You're doing a wonderful job." That's when you can smile to yourself and say "Thanks be to God". Let me tell you there aren't too many times you see the perfect picture of the REAL thing. When my girls were little I'd just keep telling myself at each changing stage "This too shall pass." Thank God that He has given you this moment. Cherish It!!
We all must have a lighter side to us and I'm hoping that in my blogs to share crafts, game ideas, recipes, funny happenings etc. I have another blog with my quiet spiritaul thoughts as well.
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