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• Wednesday, September 13, 2006 - New Hope


Well I did it, I read the book of John. And then I read it and read it and then read it again.  I am thankful to those that recomended that I read it to start.  I have a new outlook on my life it seems, and I am going to try to do things different in my life from this day forward.  One thing that has become of interest to me is dressing in a modest way.  I have never been comfortable showing much skin to begin with, and I am going to work towards trying to dress in skirts from now on.  Problem being that I only own like two.  Well it is a start right?  I will check out the goodwill when I have the time to root through the racks.  They just usually do not have a good supply of plus sized clothes, which unfortunatley I need.

I didn't mention before that I am having problems in my marriage, but I think that I am ready to share, maybe I can get help from some of you ladies out there.  If seems my husband is not happy in our marriage.  Or should I say he is not happy with his life, and thinks it is me.  I have not been the wife that I know that I should have been, but I have been faithful, and I have been a good mother to my children.  Money is very tight in our house right now, and now he believes that maybe I should try and find a job to help out with the finances.  One problem is that I have 4 children, two of which are in school fulltime, but two are home all day.  Daycare these days is way to much to afford, plus I do not want that for my kids, I want them home with mom.  So now he suggests that I work at night when he is home, another problem, because there is 4 of them, and I think it might be to much for him to handle by himself.  Plus I like to be here when my little ones go to sleep.  Now I am stuck on what to do, I do watch one little girl two days of the week, and get paid $50 a week for that.  That helps with spending money, but there never seems to be enough money.  I am now looking on ways to cut down our bills, like refinancing and cutting other costs.  All of this, and I am also dealing with the fact that he is unhappy and is thinking about divorce.  This is one of the reasons that I have turned to the bible for answers, I find comfort in it, and hope that things will turn around for the better real soon.  I have to go for now, and get some things done around here.  Sorry I am going from subject to subject, but my mind is a mess, and is on overload as of late.  Talk to you all real soon, and have a beautiful day!
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• Wednesday, September 13, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by Greenac14416
I've been in your place, and I am divorced. I am 27 and have been divorced now for 5 years. I know the tough time you're going through, I was there myself. Though I didn't turn to the bible for comfort personally I know that it can be very uplifting.
As for your situation, try to cut back on your bills and your spending. You can't solve money problems with more money, so I don't think you working will help the situation. You need a lifestyle change, control spending, keep money in the bank longer and put it to better use. There is a wealth of information on the blogs around here. I'm sure that you can find something to implement just by hitting the "random" button above.
Should you need a talk, or someone to sympathize, or someone to help you sort through all the information you manage to find, come on over to my blog and leave a message. I can always find a way to get in touch with you one on one if you don't want an open forum.
Keep your chin up,
~Athena
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• Thursday, September 14, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by dlynthomas
I would have to agree with the other comment, more money won't always solve the problem. Work on the spending, and cut back where you can. Going to work will add to your expenses, unless you can work a job that will bring in a large amount of money to help with the debt problem. I wouldn't suggest working evenings unless it is an absolute necessity, that can further strain your already strained marriage. The two of you need time together to work through the issues that are causing marital problems, and the kids need you there. Not knowing the whole picture, I can't say that it will all work out, because like the other comment states, sometimes it doesn't work out for good. But in the midst of it all, trust God to help you and do what is best for your children. Your husband has to want to work with you to make it work, it takes both of you agreeing on a plan to work through the debt issue and the marital problems. If one party is not willing to work, then you can't do it yourself. I will be praying for you and please know that I also will be here if you need to talk. May God give you peace in the storm.
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• Tuesday, November 21, 2006 - Thanks for sharing

Posted by freye
We have been fortunate in that The LORD has always supplied our needs.....
But I do have areas where I sin.....
I try to keep a short account with the LORD...
At the moment my immune system is awful
I find I cna't stay on the computer for LONG
Chronic [problems are not easy to LIVE with...
I have just been given a word on not to despise the Small things......
I admire homesteaders in that they can do this....
Maybe I will share more when I feel I can...
happy thanksgiving...
Dear Lord we Pray for Your Family here that you will Posper them in the way and in your mercy FILL their Barns with good store FROM YOU THE LIVING LORD and EVERLASTING FATHER AMEN.....
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