Sunday, August 10, 2008
Update
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Thank you everyone for your kind words. Thought I'd update you on the latest news. DIL is scheduled to have a second ultrasound to confirm the diagnosis. If confirmed, she'll have a D&C on Thursday. Sounds so clinical doesn't it? Our hearts and lives don't feel those clinical words. We simply know a precious one will be missing. As many people said, it's not like anyone of us, especially DS and DIL, will ever forget, but life will move on. And already, it has, with plans to remember the baby in many different ways. There are those who are planting trees in memory of our little Angel....one friend is planting a willow tree, because she sees their flowing branches as childlike and playful. What a delightful picture I now will forever have in my head when I see a willow tree! I'm also planting a tree - a tulip tree, which is the state tree of Indiana. Under the tree, I will place a winged cherub to remind me and others of the life that wasn't to be. DS and his wife are planning to install a new window with garden and angel statue in memory of their baby. Many, MANY people have shared their stories. One by one, I've relayed them to my son, who I believe, like me, took heart that others have experienced a loss like this. Some lost babies after birth. One lady lost her son at age 28. Others lost babies before they had a chance to take their first breathe - like our Angel. All have a terrible pain and regret for what might have been, but also talk of the hope that arrived with healthy children later. I'm gathering the stories, without names unless people permit that, to give to DS and DIL when they have their memorial for the baby. That, too, is planned, but up in the air. All your words, all your kindnesses, all your stories have helped more than you'll ever know or realize - or perhaps you do understand and know. Maybe that's why so many shared their stories....and one day, we'll add our story to theirs in the never ending river of hope and grief.....thank you and bless you, one and all.....
One thing in all this, with your stories I realize we are all connected by threads of lives intertwining. None of us is alone. We share a quilt of memories of our lives with one another..... |
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