Simply Handmaiden

Dressing Modest

9I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, 10but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.  1 Timothy 2:9-10 (New International Version)

Daddy gave me this booklet earlier this week called "Modesty Heart Check" by Carolyn Mahaney, Nicole Whitacre, Kristin Chesemore, Janelle Bradshaw. I am glad he gave me this booklet, because I've been thinking about dressing modestly and wondering where to get tips from. So I thought that you may want to take a look.

Here are some excerpts from the booklet:

 "Start with a Heart check ...

How does a women discern the sometimes fine line between proper dress and dressing to be the center of attention? The answer starts in the intent of the heart. A woman should examine her motives and goals for the way she dresses. Is her intent to show grace and beauty of womanhood? Is it to reveal a humble heart devoted to worshipping God? Or is it to call attention to herself and flaunt her beauty? Or worse, to attempt to lure men sexually? A woman who focuses on worshipping God will consider carefully how she is dressed, because her heart will dictate her wardrobe and appearence. - John MarArthur [emphasis added]"

• "What statement do my clothes make about my heart?"
• "In choosing what clothes to wear today, whose attention do I desire and whose approval do I crave? Am I seeking to please God or impress others?"
• "Is what I wear consistent with Biblical values of modesty, self-control and respectable apparel, or does my dress reveal an inordinate identification and fascination with sinful cultural values?"
• "Who am I trying to identify with through my dress? Is the Word of God my standard or is the latest fashion?"
• "Have I asked other godly individuals to evaluate my wardrobe?"
• "Does my clothing reveal and allegiance ot the gospel or is there any contradiction between my profession of faith and my practice of godliness?"

 "Before you leave the house, do a modesty check.(What are some things you should look for as you stand in front of your mirror?)"

"From the top..."

• " When I am wearing a loose-fitting blouse or scoop-neck, can I see anything when I lean over? If so, I need to remember to place my hand against my neckline when I bend over."
• " If I am wearing a button-down top, I need to turn sideways and move around to see if there are any gaping holes that expose my chest. If there are any, I've got to grab my sewing box and pin between buttons."
• " The same check is needed if I'm wearing a sleeveless shirt. When I move around, can I see my bra? If I do, I need to grab those pins again."
• " Am I wearing a spaghetti-strap, halter, or sheer blouse? Not even pins would fix this problem! Most guys find these a hindrance in their struggle with lust. It's time to go back to the closet."
• " Can I see the lace or seam of my bra through my shirt? In this case, seamless bras are a better option."
• " More key questions: Does my shirt reveal any part of my cleavage? Does my midriff show when I raise my hands above my head? Is my shirt just plain too tight? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then I need to change my outfit?"

"Moving on down..."

• "Does my midriff (or my underwear) show when I bend over or lift my hands? If so, is it because my skirt or pants are too low? Either my shirt needs to be longer or I need to find a skirt or pants that sit higher."
• " I also have to turn around to see if what I'm wearing is too tight around my backside, or if the outline of my underwear shows. If so, I know what to do!"
• " And as for my shorts - I can't just check them standing up. I need to see how much they reveal when I sit down. If I see too much leg, I need a longer pair."
• " The "sit-down" check applies to my skirt  or dress as well. And I must remember to keep my skirt pulled down and my knees together when I'm seated."
• " And speaking of skirts, watch out for those slits! Does it reveal too much when I walk? If so, I need a slip."
• " Before I leave, I need to give my skirt a sunlight check. Is it see through? If so, I need a slip."
• " Finally, I must remember to do this modesty check with my shoes on. High-heels make my dress or skirt appear shorter."
• " And don't forget-this applies wo formal wear as well."
• " A note on swimwear: It's not easy but you can still strive to be modest at a pool or beach. Look for one-piece bathing suits that aren't cut high on the leg and don't have low necklines."

 I am making a commitment to dress modestly, and to dress to impress God - not guys. Care to join me?

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11:27, Wednesday, May 28, 2008 .. Posted by Kitty

You go girl! God will be very happy with your commitment. As a 45 year old women who wishes that she would have made such a commitment 30 + years ago, I applaud you..........Kitty

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03:47, Wednesday, May 28, 2008 .. Posted by gabbie427

This is a wonderful post!!!

God's Blessings,
Amy Jo