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Wednesday, December 6, 2006 - hugs hugs hugs
Posted by sweetie
Sherry,
It is a hard thing to have a difficult relationship with your father. My father and I have nothing in common except my birth. He doesn't know how to have relationships, so he uses money to bridge the gaps as it sounds like your father does. My father is as likely to slash me verbally as say I love you, and I have no sage wisdom for you except God does expect us to honor and show love to him regardless. I am often hurt by my father because I am wanting from him....wanting his approval.....wanting his love....wanting his attention....and because I can in no way control him giving me that...it hurts...and it angers me at times.... My father is remarried as well...and there are others now...don't let Satan use your Dad to further you from joy....I often utter under my breath during the harshest of times, "I'll kill them with kindness if I have to"...as I face yet another experience or dinner that is so hurtful....
I am so sorry for your hurt and your loss of not having a close father, I know that pain.
I will be praying for you, especially during the visit if you'll let me know when it is.
hugs hugs hugs
Sweetie
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Wednesday, December 6, 2006 - Hi Sherry
Posted by Linda
was reading your blog and this is so sad. You know parents and I'm sure I have said things and done things that wish we didn't, words and actions hurt. But ending relations with your parents or kids will only bring on more hurt years to come. Have you tried a deep set down talk with your Dad? Finding out why he does this to you? Maybe you'll find out things that your not awear of. If that is not an option, how about coming with peace, that you can not change people that God has to do this in His timing. Its clear that you love your Dad , you wouldn't be so hurt if you didn't. So thats what God can work with, your love. Go Christmas to your Dads and tell him you love him , and let things that are said or done are for a reason. Let your children see that you can love even though things are not perfect and nice. Your Dad has hurt withend to be so hurting as well as his wife. Your part, show your bigger then hurt and that you have the love of God to bring you through anything. Then let God do the changing. You'll be in my prayers. Things will get better if you let them. take good care linda
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Wednesday, December 6, 2006 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Andrea
"For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if ye not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."
Matthew 6:14-15
*ouch* :-( This one zings me every single time too!!
((((((((((()))))))))))
Love and peace~ Andrea
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Wednesday, December 6, 2006 - Untitled Comment
Posted by becky
hmmm..we went through alot with Gary's parents and didn't talk to them for a long time,but we never stopped them from seeing and talking to Elyssa..this was between us,not her and them..So if you feel so badly towards your dad maybe just let the girls have time with him instead..It is a hard decision,but you alone have the final say...just make sure you won't regret it..Hugs to you and have a great weekend..
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Thursday, December 7, 2006 - Forgive
Posted by gokings13
Forgive him in your heart. Take this to God and let Him sort it out........
BUT
I would not continue the relationship. He is warping your childrens sense of what love is by "buying" them. Not to mention he is keeping the wounds he has inflicted upon you wide open and unable to heal.
I would put time and space between my family and he and his wife.
Laura
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Thursday, December 7, 2006 - Untitled Comment
Posted by BlueApple
I would have posted pretty much everything Sweetie said above. And I will also offer that being respectful and honoring our parents doesn't mean you have to endure his wrath. Be kind, generous in your response to him, but it's o.k. to keep a respectful distance. And when he is mean to you give a quick prayer "Lord, please do not let this soul be lost". You will be amazed at God's blessing to you.
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