Shannon's Help Meet

Thanksgiving Blessing

Thanksgiving is a day to see and share Gods blessing with others.   I love when we sit down to dinner and we each share what we are thankful for, it is such a humbling experience.  I love to hear what others have to say.

For us girls it is a double blessing hubby/daddy cooks dinner!!   Hubby is a awesome cook!!!  I just love my/our day off!!  We do the dishes for him.   I just love hubby's cooking.  He is the one who taught me how to cook.

This year we will be having over my mother-in-law, her hubby my step-father-in-law, hubby's cousin, grandma, and maybe my father-in-law.    This will be grandma's last Thanksgiving.   We all think she is holding on to see this day.  Grandma is looking forward to her grandson cooking her dinner.  Grandma is getting worse every day. She will not be here on earth much longer.

I pray that you all have a blessed day tomorrow.  Please enjoy each other.  Do not let every day trouble be there.  Let it go and enjoy Gods love. 

God Bless you all, mj

What is wrong with some people

What is wrong with some people??  I am talking about this comment left by someone.

you need to call Gill and his parents yourself. Why are you leaving it up to your DD. Is the man who did this your ex husband? God I hope not!!! How could mother let this happen?

Here is what I have  to say.

1. Is Michelle is a big girl and able to make her own choices.  If she wants to lie more to Gill and his family , so be it.  We all know when you lie too much you can not keep up with them all.  And when they all find out how much will they trust her?    That is why I am leaving it up to her.  If she does some thing stupid to the babies safety we will step in.

2. Yes, he is my ex-husband.  I had to marry him to keep Michelle.  My parents would not let me other wise.  We were separated when she was 1 year old.

3.  How could a mom let that happen??  What the heck kind of comment was that??  It was the California courts that failed her.  The molestation happened when she was on a court ordered visit.  So how was I letting it happen ??  When we found out the police did nothing, the courts did nothing!  I had to take Michelle and My newborn daughter Shayna into hiding until the courts did some thing. My husband spent over a half million dollars over 13 years to keep her safe.  I was in court for 13 years trying to keep her away from him and his family who kidnapped her 5 times.  I did not let this happen to her, I fought my butt off for her!!!  For 13 years I fought. I can not controlled what he did on his visits before he lost them.  As neither could any mom who's ex-husband has visitation with their child.  He had his visitation for almost 3 years before he molested her.   The courts failed to protect her, not me.  He was found guilty of molesting her ,nothing ever happened to him.  His mother was found guilty of kidnapping again nothing.  We could not even redo the restraining order because his mother did not physically harm her( no cuts, broken bones and such), she just mentally harmed her. 

For you who ever you are left such a rude comment. How dare you judge me with out knowing the facts.  I gave just a few now.  If you want to take it out on some one why not the courts??  They did not protect my daughter nor are they protecting the others he is around by NOT having him register as a sex offender. 

Take it up with them!! No me a mom who fought as hard as she could to protect her daughter.  I started in court in 1990, I was done in court in 2003 and half million dollars lighter to boot.

I feel that people should not be able leave anonymous comments.  Sorry for my normal readers if I seem rude , I am just mad. 

Sorry just venting, mj

Prayer need for the grand babies bad!!

I am in need of prayer for the grand-babies.   Michelle went to Vegas to pick up the grand-babies.  She took Gill and his parents.   They were to meet my father but he is the hospital  because his liver is not working. 

What we need prayer is because  Michelle's father is coming to Vegas to see the babies.  Michelle's father molested her and more.  We were in court for 14 years with him.  He was found guilty but, nothing happened to him , no jail , nothing.  His mother kidnapped Michelle 5 times too.  Again nothing happened

Michelle has never told Gill or his parents about that.  So in the morning Michelle father is going to meet them and be around the grand-babies.   I would not mind so much if Michelle told Gill and his parents the truth about him.  Not here is my dad.

To me I see then meeting just Michelle's father.  Not the man who took her childhood away.  The man we were in court for almost 14 years with trying to keep her safe.

Yes, I know she is an adult, she can make her own choices.  But when it comes to the babies that is different.  She wants to send the babies to stay with him for 2 weeks.  The babies are 2 & 3 years old. They can not protect themselves from him.

I asked Michelle if they know the truth and she gets mad.  I feel that they need to know the truth and then decide for themselves.

Please pray for the grand-babies to be safe and that Michelle does not let him see them alone.

God Bless, mj

It's a wonderful life

I love the movie It's a wonderful life.  How a bout you?   I love the love story, faith, how people help one another out.   What made me and my best friend Janet laugh was how much the price of a home was.  In the movie they talked about a home costing $5000.00 !!  For some people that is just a monthly payment not the total price of a new home!!

What happened to those days??  When a neighbor cared and help out a neighbor??  When you broke down (cars) people would help.  Where you would share you blessing more, like the extra in your garden.  Where people really respected each other.  When it was safer for children to be children.  What do we have for the kids today?  On t.v we have sex, drugs, drinking violence , porn.  Do you know that some underwear adds would have been porn back then??  What happened???  We need to go back to stronger values , to what is really important.  God , family , friends, others.

Bring back the good old days......

God Bless, mj

Fires in California

I do not know if you see on your news things about California , but we are having major fires.  We have 6 going and 3 of them are close around us.   We live in Chino.  Chino Hills was Chino to, until they changed it to Chino Hills ( it was always just called the hills) because they did not to live in a city that has a prison.  Carbon canyon is also part of Chino Hills (Chino).   We live a few miles form Diamond Bar and Corona.  We have fires all around us.  We are praying for the people who lost their homes and for all the people helping out.  So many people lost it all.

People were evacuated 3 miles from us.   It has been very smokey and it looks like it snowed due to the ash.   It is fall but we have been in the 90's.   Hubby had such a hard time getting home from work on Friday.  The 3 freeways were closed as was Carbon Canyon.   It took him over 2.5 hours to drive the 17 miles home!!

God Bless, mj

Friday night for the girls

Tonight the girls went to a friend play at church.  They love it.  After the play all the kids went out to Denny's for a bite to eat.   They will be home at 11.30 pm.

What is nice is that Shayna who is 18 years old and Kristi who is 16 years old are so trustworthy.  Shayna and Kristi went and picked up their friend Jessie (girl) before the play.  What is nice is they just like to hang out with friends do, church events and have clean fun like riding ice block down hill in parks.  What is neat about that is they called the police to make sure it was legal first.  It was.  They got some girls and boys and have gone ice blocking a few times.

The girls like boys , but neither are ready to date.   Kristi was asked out about a month or so ago.  She told the boy that she is not ready to date yet.  I did not tell her to say that nor was I any where near her when she said it.

God bless, mj

Coming soon

Coming soon:  Pictures of Marty and his life.  

I posted about his going home to God on my other blog thunderwolf ranch.  But I am will start a scrap book on him and his life.  So I will share the pictures.

God Bless, mj

Tomorrow is the day, prayer needed

Tomorrow is the day.  We will be sending Marty home  tomorrow afternoon.   I am asking for prayer for this.   It is verrry hard on us all to say " I will see you latter" to him.  We are not saying good bye because we believe that animals go to heaven.  They are Gods creation too.  Besides I can not imagine heaven with out hearing the buzzing of the bees , the birds song and seeing all the other wonderful critters God has made for us.

Marty is a 13.5  year old golden.  Marty has saved my life a few times as well as Kristi's life a few times. Marty is a great service dog, the first anaphylaxis dog.   He has put up with his sister dressing him up, painting his nails, to riding him and burring him in the sand with just his head showing.  He has babysat the grand-babies.  Marty taught Maddie not to climb the stairs by every time she would climb past her step he would put her down to her butt and lay across her lap keeping her down.   As for Jeffie he has roughed house with him and was  Jeffie's first pony.

God Bless, mj

Marty's up date 11-02-08

Marty is still here with us all.  He is eating some, he loves the raw turkey.  We give him as much as he will eat.   Shannon and I talked about Marty the other day.  We decided to let him die at home around all of us.  Marty is not in pain nor is he suffering.  All he wants is to be with us.   If it turns to he is in pain or suffering we will have him put down.

It is so funny he is comforting us!  Here we are doing the same to him. But he makes sure we know he loves us.  What a blessing he is to us all.

God Bless, mj

Pictures of Marty

I shared on my other blog thunderwolf ranch that our golden Marty is dying.  Here are a few pictures of Marty.

He is sleeping with a goat.

Here he is at Disneyland:

Here he is again at Disneyland with the girls and Santa, this is when he was younger:

Thank you and God Bless, mj

How I broke my leg

Some one asked what is wrong with my leg.  Here is the story.

On December 27th of 2007 us girls (my daughters Shayna then 17 and Kristi then 15 )  went to our favorite park to clean up the creek because we had a rain storm the day before.   We go to this creek in the spring / early summer to get our tadpoles and crawdads.

I thought I would be a "good girl"  and wear shoes ( I never wear shoes there) .  So we were cleaning it up and I walked to a different area started to walk down a small 3 foot sloop and I slipped.   When I looked down at my leg because it hurt , I saw that my body was facing north and my foot was facing all the way east.  I rolled over to have my body match my foot , the girls called 911.

At the hospital once hubby got there they put to me to sleep for a few moments.  They pulled on my leg to try to get it back in place, it was a no go.

I woke up they tell me you have to have surgery!  I started to argue with them telling them I am NOT allowed to have surgery because of bad lung damage.   They told me my x-rays are bad. I broke two bones in my leg.  1 was a clean break, the other well I splintered it.  I also broke my ankle.  ( I did a good job ) 

The Dr. can in latter that night and told me how scared he was to do the surgery on me. He said that over and over again, even the next day before we went in the or.    During the surgery he put in a plate, 8 screws and 2 pins.

Here is my leg in pictures.

This one is of my cast and you can see that it is bleeding through the cast (  I had an plaster cast and a fiberglass when I left the hospital 5 days latter):

Here is the 1st day home:

Here is the 1st peak on one side:

During cast changes:

The pins :

As you can see the pins were almost breaking out.  It has been almost 10 months since I broke my leg and it is still broken.  The one leg bone still has 2 parts of the bone still not fixed.  The bones were to move over to the main leg bone.

As of now one of the screws are causing problems.  My bone has let out all the swelling and now one of the screws is sticking out to much. So I am having that screw removed.    I still walk with a limp and it is hard to get going after sitting for a few minutes.

I want this to be over and done with.  My life is still on hold.  I can not ride my horse at this time as he has been sitting for 10 months and bucks when I get on him.  If I hurt my leg again then can not fix it, they will have to remove it.  Needless to say I do not push it.

God bless, mj

Not happy

I am not happy.   I received a call from my leg Dr. today.  I thought the call was to set up my next surgery.  Why did I think that??  Well , the Dr. told me as soon as he gets the tools need to do the surgery and has my x-rays he will call to set it up.

I was at first happy he called, but when I found out it was to be another visit to talk about the surgery I was sad / mad.   I am not to go under general anaesthesia due to lung damage.  He was going to do it in the office because of that.

So now I wonder if he is going to want to do the surgery in the hospital????   I hope not.    Shannon is going to take some time off to go to that Dr.'s visit with me, we need to hear what the Dr wants to do.     It is hard for Shannon to take off at this time.

Shannon is the operations manager of the environmental company where he works.  They are so booked that he has pulled 7 drillers from the 3 other offices they have.   They are just so busy and over worked.   One thing about doing environmental  work is that he will always have work. 

God Bless, mj

Hubby to save the day

I am so blessed hubby is going to help us clean out the house , garage and storage unit.   We girls are so behind.  The more we try to get ahead , the more we fall behind, ok, it feels that way. 

We have made a large dent in stuff, but I feel like it is not enough.  I asked hubby for his help because it is hard for the girls to do all the heavy lifting.  I still can not do stuff I used to do.  I am not as strong and I have to have a clear path to walk on.

  My leg is still broken after almost 10 months!!  Plus, I have to have more surgery!!!  The Dr. is going to do it in the office because I can not go under.  This surgery he is removing one of the 8 screws.  This one screw is coming out already !!  It sticks out of my ankle and hurts bad to very painful at times.   After my next set of x-rays he will decide what to do about the bone that has 2 large bone fragments still attached that have not moved over to bone like he hoped they would.

So I had to admit defeat and ask for hubby's help.  If you know me in person you know how hard it is for me to do that.  For years I wore the pants in the family.   It was very hard for me to give hubby control over the house, it still is some times.   But I did a few years ago, like 8.   I was done with us each living two different lives.  It was us girls over here and hubby over there.    We girls did so much with out him, everything.  We girls did trips and life was ours.  Hubby did his trip and life.   Hubby was a great provider and was there for special events, but I wanted more.   So one day I gave him a choice either he becomes a part of us or he leaves.  

I wanted some one to spend my life with.  To go away together, enjoy the blessing God gave us together and so much more.   As you can tell he chose us.   That has been such a blessing.  Even though he was not doing anything with us we still served him and wait on him had and foot (we still do).  We still had our role to do and we did.

But , we girls did it all and learned how to do it.  If you know me I Was brought up a rich B.   If I wanted it done I hired some one.    But I started doing things out of spite and loved it.   We girls have built our ranch.  We set up corrals, I tilled the land, we learned how to do plumbing, we built a barn with a little bit of help from the man we hired ( he quite not even 1/2 way) we girls put on most of the roof , hubby help a little, we built arena's round pens, feed sheds, we built shelters, we laid the hard wood in the house, we paint, ripped up carpet, built dog runs, move us into this house 15 years ago , we girls did most of it in a bug!! 

 I taught my girls how to do it all.  I remember when Shayna friend who is a boy was shocked that when the gate came undone she just got the tool that was needed and fixed it.  He had no clue what to do. The thing that bothered me until I broke my leg is that some thing should be done by a man.  I asked hubby why we girls did things that are done by a man??  He said it is because we can do it!!  Look where my spite got me.   Doing it all just because I can and did. 

It was after I broke my leg and was down for so long he saw what we girls did daily, by seeing what was not getting done.   He never knew how much we did each and every day.  It was a blessing that I broke my leg because he now knows what we do.  His is going to hire a maid to help us with the house.   What a blessing.

I do not want them to be like me.  When I moved out I did not know how to cook, work the dish washer , washer, dryer, clean.  I had a maid who did that and my mom did it too.  I am proud to say the girls can run a house as well as I can.   My mom thinks it is child abuse, but the are ready to move in with their hubby's and run the house.

So in a long / short way.  We girls are blessed that daddy/hubby is going to take 2 days off work and help us.  He still has almost 2 weeks of vacation left.  Thank you Lord for such a man.  Thank you for the growth we have done as a family.

God Bless, mj

Hockey game tonight

Tonight Shannon took us girls to our 1st hockey game of the season.

We had a blast!  I walked the whole thing!  From the truck to our entrance , to our seats and back!  The back part was hard!  We sit in our seats  through all the periods and break times.  Sitting there for so long in the cold building made my leg stiff.  It was really the 1st time I was able to notice a difference in my legs with the cold.  I told hubby next time I am wearing my Uggs!  I normally wear flip flops, ok we all do.

But it was so nice to get out and be normal with hubby and the girls. We are sending the girls to the greet and meet on Thursday with 2 friends, because I can not be on my leg like that for hours.   We are sending them with jerseys and a Stanley cup photo for the Ducks team to sign. 

Shayna is going to Disneyland in the morning to see about a job.  They pay good and have good benefits.   Say a prayer please. She wants this until her classes open up.  Then she will work and go to school.

Thank you for a great night hubby.

God Bless, mj

We girls are sick

Today when I was getting ready to send hubby Shannon off to work I found Shayna in the bathroom doing her hair.  She looked like death.  I felt her head she was burning up, daddy felt her head, same burning up he said.   I gave her so medicine and sent her off to bed, where she still is.   Kristi came down burning up, felt my head burning up!  Shannon say he is sleeping the his truck tonight!  I told him there are dog houses!!! 

Shannon is so great to us.  He said for us girls to just take it easy today and get better.  What a guy.  There is always so much for us to do and he just wants us to rest and feel better. 

We girls will do wash and keep up on a few things and of course feed the zillion animals we have.  But that is it.   Thank you hubby, you are such a blessing to us all.

God Bless, mj

My hubby

On Friday night I was in the hospital until Saturday morning as I had another anaphylaxis reaction.  I check myself out ama because I did not want to spend 3 hours in a private room.  To me that is a waste of time and money, just keep me in the er.  Hubby, Shannon supported this and still does.  Our insurance might not cover the hospital bill because we left.  But I stayed the hours the Dr. wanted to make sure the medicine worked.

Shannon still supports this.  Because if the Dr. listened to what I was say about what medicine I need and when the reaction would not have kept flaring up.   Hello, this was my 190th hospital visit with this.  I know what I need and when.  He was a new Dr. , he was good but needed to listen to me and check my history more.  The Dr. thought I took enough medicine to stop it and I said no I need at least 300 mg to 400mg of antihistamine , he said that is way to much.  But guess what I ended up with that much over a few hours.  

It is so sad and funny that the fire department knows me and my history.  I hate to run into them in the market because they remember me!!  But then on the good part is they know what I need and when.

I am glad that Shannon my hubby stayed by my side during the whole night.  It is hard for me to stay in the hospital because I can not be around cleaners , they can not feed me, his support on the ama means a lot. When I was in the hospital for 5 days when I broke my leg Shannon and the girls brought me food.   I was still billed for meals at the hospital though because they brought me jello and juice!!

I am glad God gave me such a wonderful husband.

God Bless, mj

Hubby Fishing Trip , his call

Hubby is spending a this weekend in Mexico fishing on a yacht!  He took four  clients on this trip.  I love his company and so does he.  They pay him to go fishing and pay for what ever boat he picks.   They even send him on fishing tournaments in different states.  What perks he has !!

But my favorite part is when he calls me to see how we girls are doing.   I love it when he tells me how much he loves me and misses me.    It is neat that while he is out having fun doing his favorite thing he calls when he can to just send his love.

I love this man God sent me to be my husband, what a blessing he is.

God bless, mj

Working hard For the Lord and hubby

I have been working very hard to get back to normal.   I broke my leg and ankle almost 9 months ago.  It left me bed ridden for 4 months and I  am now up and moving more in the past 3 weeks.  I have started cooking dinner more, running around town. 

I am trying hard to get as much done as I can for my husband and myself too.  Right before I broke my leg I took down all the corrals, round pen and arena at our ranch / farm.  I also had to start un-packing the house and the storage unit because we decided not to have the second house built on the ranch, the housing market was just starting to hit trouble.

So now I am trying to be me again and do as much as I can before I have to have surgery again.  It feels great when Shannon my hubby comes home and is very happy when he sees how much I have gotten done.  That feels me up with so much love for him.   On days when I have a hard time walking and did not get much done he understands.

I have unpacked so much and have been listing items on e-bay and filling up my feed storage with a ton of boxes for a yard sale.  I still have a lot to do.  Do not even get me started on finishing the garage!  But I have done half of it.

It is funny how when we women do our jobs and do them with the love and joy for the Lord and our husbands it make us want to do it more!

God Bless, mj

How many men dies it take to hang a picture?

I had my daughter Kristi take this picture when we were at my sisters Tracy's house for a BBQ.   She and her hubby Andy just bought their 1 st home a few weeks ago.  She needed this picture hung.  Tracy, mom and I laughed so hard while the men were hanging the picture.  We kept saying how it would have been done faster if we girls did it.  And the boys / men kept making jokes about the "stud finder" find them!   Oh'boy men.  It took them over 15 minutes to hand the picture with ONE nail.  We love you boys, but we girls could have had it done in 3-5 minutes!

Here are the boy / men:

From left to right is my hubby Shannon, our dad and last is Tracy's husband Andy.

God Bless, mj

The Start

My name is mj and I am Shannon's help meet.  Shannon is a Mr. Command Man, as described in Debi Pearl's book.   Some times it is hard to be a wife of a Command Man, if you are a strong dominant woman.   I am just about as hard headed as Shannon.  It took me years to give him the head of the household role and I do mean YEARS!   But it was all worth it!   To have him in charge of it all is such a weight off me. 

But some times there are problems.  An example is with our older daughter Shayna.  Shayna is a very good girl, but boy is she strong willed, I have no clue where she got that from .   The problem was Shayna spoke to me rude and then to her dad.  He and I talked to her about it but stopped when it was dinner time.  Shannon said he would talk to her again after dinner but did not.   That was hard for me because it was not resolved.  I wanted it done and over with.

It was hard for me to not say something about his not talking to her more.  He knew I wanted to say it, but did not.

This blog is a part of my journey of working everyday on being the help meet Shannon needs and God wants me to be.

God Bless, mj