This is from Chris's blog:   http://www.homesteadblogger.com/athomewithkris/

"So, this week, please share something that you do to keep the communication open between you and your husband, children, family, friends, etc. How do you keep from nagging them? ... OR ... share an idea for an ARK that we can do during this holiday season to "give" to others. I can't wait to hear what you have to share!"

I answered it in her commit section in part.  See I really need to wake up before I try and do tough stuff like this.  I forgot we needed to link it back to OUR blogs!  :)   Slowly I may get this blog thing figured out. 

This was what I answered on her blog.    I think for me understanding each person's love language is the key. For my husband acts of service is a probably his biggy, that and touch. While two children and my DIL like me and wants quality time, My other older son is more touch. My youngest DD is touch/gifts and my youngest son is a hard one to figure out. I think probably acts of service. If I keep this in mind as I love my family I can make each one feel more special than if I just relate in the way that is my love language.

But I also wanted to add that something my kids and I did was choose a child off the Angle Tree at Walmart and buy gifts for her.  The kids decided on a 4 yo little girl.  She needed pants and wanted Dora stuff.  We had a lot of fun buying.  We spent way to much money, but it was our gift as we don't buy gifts for each other.  We even got her a Christmas Ornament with her name on it.   Kids spent lots of time saying,  "She would like ...."  It was funny as this child they have never met took on a personality.  I do hope she likes pink.   That seemed to be the color they thought she would like.