The Journey Towards Home - From Mess Maker to Home Maker

2006-Aug-3

has it really been ten years? time flies when you are in love!

I can hadrly believe that my husband and I have been married ten WONDERFUL years today! They have been the bext 3 years of my life! But seriously, all joking aside, I do wish that it wasn't just the past three years that have been working on being a submissive wife. I know that our marriage (while still wonderful, always with room to grow) would have been much happier (as they have been the past few years) if I had learned what the BIBLE had to say about submission instead of just going off what other women in the church said it was.

If you had asked my husband 3 years ago if I was submissive, he would have said YES without any doubts. But once I learned what the BIBLE said about submission (and even moreso once I learned that being a helpmeet was a whole lot more than JUST submission), if you were to ask my husband now if I was submissive, he would prolly reply: Not during the first few years of our marriage, but she is working on it now."

Yep, WORKING ON IT. I still haven't got it down. There are still days when I forgot to honor my husband.

I am reading a WONDERFUL book by Nancy Leigh DeMoss (oh she is WONDERFUL!) called Biblical Womanhood.

We know we should always be asking ourselves in EVERYTHING we do "Does this glorify God? Is this what God would have me do?"

As wives, this book reminds us to ask ourselves in everything "Does this help my husband?" OH THAT HURTS!

I would so much rather be playing on the computer, scrapbooking while the kids are napping than packing the house or mowing the lawn. BUT, does that help my husband? Right now, the answer is no. We are preparing to move and trying to get thouse hosue ready. Playing on the computer does not help him when I could be packing instead. (Thankfully I am able to enter this while I am nursing the baby

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So just a reminder to ask yourself in everything:
DOES THIS HELP MY HUSBAND?

If the answer is no, you would be blessed to skip it and move onto something else. :)

And a nursing baby needs LOTS of nursing so I also had a little bit of time to do this:

Click on it to see the layout I made for my husband for our ten wonderful years of love. Those love ntes are ACTUAL notes I have written to him (or VERY similar).

One more layout for my man:

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2006-Aug-7 - Untitled Comment

Posted by Anonymous
My husband and I will be married this year for nine years. Your post made me smile and think of our long, hard, but wonderful learning experience we shared so far. So, after reading your post I decided to ask my husband if he thought I was submissive. He wanted to know exactly what \"submissive\" meant. After my brief definition, he quickly said \"NO\"

So, I know I still have many years of learning to be a help meet. At least he knows I am trying...

2006-Aug-25 - What a great wife!

Posted by Anonymous
I have such a wonderful wife. Most wives find a man to change rather than start the changes in themselves. What most women don't know is that if they are true to changing theirselves to be loving and supporting and submissive, the husband will start changing, too.

-snugglehubby