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-Daily Routine-
MONDAY:
-Daven
-Load of Laundry
-Daily cleaning
-Focus room: Kitchen
TUESDAY:
-Daven
-Load of Laundry
-Daily cleaning
-Focus room: Living room & Entry way
WEDNESDAY:
-Daven
-Load of Laundry
-Daily cleaning
-Focus room: Bathroom
THURSDAY:
-Daven
-Load of Laundry
-Daily cleaning
-Focus room: Bedrooms
FRIDAY:
-Prepare for Shabbat
SATURDAY:
Shabbat Rest
SUNDAY:
-Have a family fun day
-Weekly Cleaning Routine-
MON:
Kitchen
-Clean Microwave
-Quick clean inside of fridge
-Clean outside of fridge
-Scrub sink
-Organize book shelves
-Organize cabinets
-Deep clean floor
TUES:
Living Room
-Dust wood and glass surfaces
-Organize Bookcases
-Dust computer, tv, and stereo
-Clean and vacuum underneath couch
-Vacuum out couch
Entry Way
-Vacuum floor
-Wash floor
Hallways
-Vacuum stairs and hall floor
WEDS:
Bathrooms
-Scrub inside and outside of toilet
-Deep clean sink and counters
-Clean mirror
-Wipe down tiles
-Deep clean floors
-Vacuum floors
-Wash garbage can
-Throw out trash
THURS:
Bedrooms
-Change and wash sheets
-Vacuum floors
FRI:
-Prepare for Shabbat
SAT:
Shabbat Rest
SUN:
Make it a Fun Day
-Book-
-I'm Reading-
The Trail To Tranquility
-Movie-
-of the Month-
- Weekly Parsha by: Azamra -
Weekly Parsha
-Recipe of The Week-
Raw Corn Chips
corn from 5 corn cobs
1 onion
1 green or red bell pepper
1 carrot
Blend it so you still can see chunks of veggies.
Add any herbs and spices you like, salt.
Dry on a teflex sheet for 24-30 hours til they turn crispy and crunchy.
P.S. please note all recipes of the week are placed on my Raw Recipe link in the Category Section
-Insight-
by: Rebbe Nachman
Man's world consists only of the present.
Whatever you can do to serve God, do immediately and determinedly without delay.
Chayey Moharan #431
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The Pen is Mightier than the Paddle
I have been debating sometime on methods of discipline. It has been a long journey and large struggle for me.
My oldest Daughter is 20 years old and then there is a 12 year gap between her and my other children.
I was so used to having one child and then all of the sudden here came 3 of them back to back.
My younger ones are aged 8,7,4.
It is hard when you feel like you are being bombarded by the children and sometimes I would think that they take turns.
But I wrote a Ruv and the words he gave me were priceless. Love them and do not be violent.
Violent....Here I have the webster's dictionary meaning of the word violent.
Main Entry: vi·o·lent
1 : marked by extreme force or sudden intense activity
2 a : notably furious or vehement
b : EXTREME, INTENSE
3 : caused by force : not natural
4 a : emotionally agitated to the point of loss of self-control >
b : prone to commit acts of violence
I can say although I do not abuse my children but when one looks at the meaning of violent it broke my heart that my words and actions toward them may seem violent.
I have used force or intense activity when I restrain them when I just cant get control of them.
I have showed them anger maybe even fury when I grab my head and hold on for dear life and my son runs screaming as he grabs his brother to save and says...Run she is gonna blow..
I have been extreme and intense when I exxagerate their behaviour and compare them to what I believe the ideal child should be.
And can I tell you how many times I have been agitated to the point of loss of self control and start yelling around the house.
This truly has been an eye opener.
But...today I thought to myself I will not react or speak violently.(Loud)
So I received a phone call at work about the boys behaviour and I was ready for it. So I walked the whole center court to get to them and when I got there the fear in their eyes as to say "OH MAN WE are gonna get it....."
I sat them at the table and I spoke to them and explained to them the dangers of what they were doing. Als o the sadness of their disobedience.
I then proceeded to tell them that they were going to write what they did wrong 100 times on a paper. I will not...
Can I tell you it worked like a charm. I walked away stress free and they had time to think...
And the most beautiful thing was that they received what they did wrong because to write it a hundred times makes them think about what they did. I went back to work and an hour later my oldest daughter called me and they were done.
I came home and did my routine and then when it came time for bed my boys ran up to me and hugged me and said Mama we will not do that bad thing. It really taught us a lesson. We Love you and now we want to do our blessings before bed.
Baruch Hashem I may go through a lot of paper but the beauty is I wont go through a lot of aggravation.
Don't get me wrong I am a firm disciplinarian but sometimes we need to back up and make them think and an hour of writing a mistake may help it sink in. They write ot over and have a positive affirmation of what they are NOT going to do.
Them sitting there quiet also helps us reflect on ourselves and keep us calm which keeps a calm home.
That is what Shalom Bayit is about.
An honorable son
 My dear son has been going through a few things lately. He has been struggling with video games. But to my surprise he came to me this morning and decided that he did not want to play video games anymore. He normally helps out here in the complex by earning a couple of dollars fro picking up trash. Well he got his trash bag ready and headed out. He said I want to work I don't want to play games anymore. If I decide I want to buy some gifts I cannot do that if I am playing games. He also told me that playing the games dishonors his parents because he knows in his heart that we do not want him to play video games.
WOW where did that come from. I would so much like to take the credit for that but he truly is an honorable son. He came to it all on his own and I am so proud of him. He begins his classes tonight with the Rabbi and can I tell you there is a change in him. He says mama it almost time for me to become a man. I sit here with tears in my eyes and cannot believe that this little boy who a few weeks ago has literally changed overnight. He is becoming a man and so desires in his heart to be a tzaddik. This lesson was not about him learning something but about me learning something. If my son who is so young is already learning his boundaries so must I learn mine.
Parents Are Too Lenient
Introduction
Discipline varies as the child matures and gains deeper comprehension of "wrong" and "right". Power struggles between mother and the two-year old in the formof temper tantrums should have eased up as the child now had the verbal maturity to negotiate his emotional needs and does not need to resort to physically aggressive behavior. School age children who have a basic schedule, such as morning routines, school, supper, homework, play and a bedtime hour, thrive emotionally on the "predictability" of the day and are easy to raise. Flexibility can easily be incorporated into structure by allowing children to make "age appropriate" choices, such as deciding which of two dresses may be worn, whether to brush teeth before or after getting undressed, which homework to do first, etc. The key point to remember is that the routine of the day stays the same, but "decision making" on how to carry it out can be implemented by the children. This allows them room to develop their individuality, while providing predictability, a major ingredient of emotional security. Children who lack structure in the routine of the day, due to parental guilt, ignorance or inability to remain consistent with "structure", often find themselves in reverse roles. Instead of the parents controlling the behavior of the child and the routine of the house, the child becomes the power figure that controls the parents and the entire household.
When Parents Are Too Lenient
Giving so much power to a child who does not have the maturity to handle it is like appointing a ten-year old to run for President. Who in their right mind would vote for a ten-year old vs. a mature adult to run the affairs of the country? What would our country look like? What would happen to the armed forces, national budget and crime? Surely, the country would be in a state of chaos in a very short time. Yet, many parents are doing just that, by empowering their children as the experts on authority, structure and limit setting.
To make matters worse, children lose more and more of their self-confidence as the parents allow them more and more freedom. A house devoid of daily routine does not create emotionally healthy children. It is no wonder that under-disciplined children saddled with a poor self-image become easily frustrated and cannot carry out long-term goals. As adults they suffer, having failed to attain the proper skills to delay instant gratification in exchange for long-term gains. Perhaps, most disturbing is the problem of poor adult impulse in areas of controlling anger, invading the physical privacy of others and not taking into account the consequences of doing or taking what is incorrect according to law or religion.
Cameron Rychlak, author of Personality Disorders states,
"Children cannot do everything that adults can do. They cannot foresee and plan as adults can for they lack the experience in living to do so correctly. Some of the most serious childhood anxieties comes from the failure of parents to set limits to a child's impulsive behavior, providing wise guidance and discipline when indicated. A child is not born with self-control; this ability has to be learned...."
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