PrincezLeah

PrincezLeah613

-Daily Routine-

MONDAY:
-Daven
-Load of Laundry
-Daily cleaning
-Focus room: Kitchen
TUESDAY:
-Daven
-Load of Laundry
-Daily cleaning
-Focus room: Living room & Entry way
WEDNESDAY:
-Daven
-Load of Laundry
-Daily cleaning
-Focus room: Bathroom
THURSDAY:
-Daven
-Load of Laundry
-Daily cleaning
-Focus room: Bedrooms
FRIDAY:
-Prepare for Shabbat
SATURDAY:
Shabbat Rest
SUNDAY:
-Have a family fun day

-Weekly Cleaning Routine-

MON:
Kitchen
-Clean Microwave
-Quick clean inside of fridge
-Clean outside of fridge
-Scrub sink
-Organize book shelves
-Organize cabinets
-Deep clean floor
TUES:
Living Room
-Dust wood and glass surfaces
-Organize Bookcases
-Dust computer, tv, and stereo
-Clean and vacuum underneath couch
-Vacuum out couch
Entry Way
-Vacuum floor
-Wash floor
Hallways
-Vacuum stairs and hall floor
WEDS:
Bathrooms
-Scrub inside and outside of toilet
-Deep clean sink and counters
-Clean mirror
-Wipe down tiles
-Deep clean floors
-Vacuum floors
-Wash garbage can
-Throw out trash
THURS:
Bedrooms
-Change and wash sheets
-Vacuum floors
FRI:
-Prepare for Shabbat
SAT:
Shabbat Rest
SUN:
Make it a Fun Day

-Book-
-I'm Reading-

The Trail To Tranquility

-Movie-
-of the Month-

- Weekly Parsha by: Azamra -

Weekly Parsha

-Recipe of The Week-

Raw Corn Chips
corn from 5 corn cobs
1 onion
1 green or red bell pepper
1 carrot
Blend it so you still can see chunks of veggies.
Add any herbs and spices you like, salt.
Dry on a teflex sheet for 24-30 hours til they turn crispy and crunchy.

P.S. please note all recipes of the week are placed on my Raw Recipe link in the Category Section

-Insight-
by: Rebbe Nachman

Man's world consists only of the present.
Whatever you can do to serve God, do immediately and determinedly without delay.
Chayey Moharan #431

The Mile Marker By: Leah

11:00, Monday, December 24, 2007 .. Posted in Library .. 1 comments .. Link

The Mile Marker By: Leah

There once was a young sick man that had a wounded heart. He had a dream about a great Tzaddik(righteous man) living in a town far away who was a great healer. When he woke up he realized that he must follow his dream and head to the town .
He had decided to leave his family and friends and everything familiar to him to go on this journey that would bring him to a great Tzaddik . His Mother was ready to say goodbye when she said one final thing to him. "My Son please remember stay on the road. Never leave the road because on the road you will see mile markers and that will tell you if you are going in the right direction and how far you have to go.
When he first began his journey he was excited to know that he was finally going to be healed of his ailment. He trudge for miles in pain to get to the town where the Tzaddik was. When he first left it was bright and shiny and warm. But as soon as he left the comfort and familiar town he noticed that the sun was setting and it was dark and cold.
He finally saw a mile marker but the amount of miles that were written on it were worn from time.
It was getting darker and darker so he decided to stop for the night.
He was not prepared for this so he began to pray." Abba I have listened to my dream and here I am in the dark and cold and far from my home and far from where I am going. But the trip is long and hard. I need strength to keep going"
In the darkness his heart filled with fear. He could hear noises all around him. He decided to make a fire. When there was enough light around him he realized that the noise came from he saw a field mouse rustling for food.
He fell asleep and dreamed of a Mother walking with a child. The child tripped and fell down and was crying. The young man went to pick up the child and the mother said "No... do not pick up the child. How will he reach for me if I pick him up right from the beginning.?"
He awoke and began his journey again. The road began to get more run down and worn out. He had been walking for hours and finally he came upon another marker. Once again he knew he was in the right direction but the miles were also worn off of this marker.
He decided to take a rest and eat . He saw some dark clouds in the distance. It looked like a thunderstorm was approaching. There was nowhere on the road to take cover from it. Off the road he saw another road that was shiny and bright. but there were no mile markers.
He remembered the words of his mother. Do not go off of the road. There he sat and the thunder and rain poured down over him. Once again he cried. "Abba, I have listened to my dream and I still do not see the town anywhere in site."
This went on for days. He traveled and walked for hundreds of miles only seeing markers and not seeing the town.
At one point he was almost attacked by wild dogs. He ran out of food. Everything terrible that could happen did happen. Finally he came to a little town he asked and pleaded for help but no one would help him. When finally a kind person came to him. He said "You look hungry boy...come to my home and I will feed you and you can rest. By this point the young man had completely forgot why he had even headed out on the journey for.
He slept for days. When he awoke he saw the man sitting by the fire learning. He asked are you the Rabbi to the town? He said no. Well thank you for helping me but I must be back on my journey. I had a dream that a great Tzaddik would be able to heal my of my ailment. I have been very sick and I have been on a long journey. I need to get back on the road and follow the markers. It will lead me to the great Tzaddik.
At that point the man looked at him. There are no more mile markers. You have reached the end of the road.
The young man asked, Well where is the great Tzaddik do you not have one in your town. The kind man looked at him. Did you follow the mile markers? The young man replied yes I did. But what does that have to do with the great Tzaddik? He isn't even here who will heal my heart? The kind man said he is here. The young man looked puzzled. Where? You said he wasn't here.
The kind man said, "well he wasn't here until you got here. You see the journey you took to get here is a journey that many try but never accomplish. Only those who walk this path and do not leave the road make it here. But many leave the road and get lost out there in the world of despair.But you stayed even when you didn't even remember why you were here. Your heart is fine. Had you had a bad heart you would have never made it. So you see you have become the great Tzaddik that you were searching for. The mile markers were all the Great Rabbi's that looked over you reminding you to stay on the road. The Road is the Torah which you have to follow to become a Great Tzaddik.

Criticism

01:57, Monday, November 5, 2007 .. Posted in Thoughts .. 0 comments .. Link

I know there are times when we feel that we have the right to criticise our children. But I have learned that there is no point at any time when we are able to criticize out children because the damage is irreparable. We have been blessed with this beautiful gift of a child and think that as they get older they can handle the rejection of society so we decide to become that voice. How wrong we are to take that approach. We can look for logical ways to sit here and justify why we criticize. But lets not leave it at just our children that are younger let's look at them when they are grown. We can easily justify that snapping at them and telling them how disappointed we are or what ever it is. Let's look out our spouses the ones that we are quickly to devour with unkind words and criticism. I fight with this on a daily basis for I feel that I can justify my actions because my own stresses and nothing is further from the truth.
Our Little children need to grow in an environment where there is love and respect and kind words. Then to our surprise the children are fighting with each other and we wonder why would you treat you brother or sister like that. Where did they learn it from? You guessed it right there at home with Mom and Dad.
Woman how do you expect your daughter to marry. Think of the example you have set and then ask yourself again. I have taught my daughter to be strong and independent. I look back and regret. I taught to be independent not a team player. Marriage and Family is a team. Not an independent entity.
She is older now and soon will be smitten and in love and ready to marry. What am I giving her husband? Will he be disappointed on what I have set before past the pretty eyes and smile. Does he have a woman who will love him and embrace him and give him a home of Shalom Bayit?
Will my Boys grow up to be men who cherish and respect and honor their wives. Or will they throw a tantrum the minute things do not go their way? Or feel hey have the right to be mean because of what they feel hey deserve in life.
Oh Hashem have mercy on us all and for the sake of the future of Israel may other Mother's have the same plea as myself. Gaurd them, Love them, Cherish them. Do not criticize your family because what comes out of your mouth IS what comes to pass. G-d Forbid.
Speak good things and speak kindly and nurture them with love and gentleness.

Time Out

09:16, Friday, November 2, 2007 .. Posted in Marriage .. 0 comments .. Link

Funny thing happened this weekend . My beloved and I talked about time out. Time out for ourselves to clear our heads and also to regain our focus. But after talking with him Hashem truly touched my heart.
Many married people look for extra curricular activities and really when we look at them those time out moments they really are an escape. An escape from our lives.
Now don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with doing things outside of the home but we need to really check our hearts and ask ourselves why do we need this?
I had to ask my beloved and explain to him. I don't want time out. I am married and there really is no such thing as time out except when we are to do Hitbodedut.
That is not time out that is time with Hashem. That truly should be the only thing that takes us away from our beloved.
I have realized over the years when I needed time out I really needed time away and an escape.
I am married... I have children. I don't need time out... I need time in. Time in with Abba Blesses be He.

I'm back for a moment

09:12, Friday, November 2, 2007 .. Posted in Thoughts .. 0 comments .. Link

I have a little time to update my blog with a few articles that I have written from my other blog so G-d Willing I can transfer a few things. Thanks to everyone who has read and commented on my blog

The Pen is Mightier than the Paddle

09:11, Friday, November 2, 2007 .. Posted in Child Training .. 0 comments .. Link

I have been debating sometime on methods of discipline. It has been a long journey and large struggle for me.
My oldest Daughter is 20 years old and then there is a 12 year gap between her and my other children.
I was so used to having one child and then all of the sudden here came 3 of them back to back.
My younger ones are aged 8,7,4.
It is hard when you feel like you are being bombarded by the children and sometimes I would think that they take turns.
But I wrote a Ruv and the words he gave me were priceless. Love them and do not be violent.
Violent....Here I have the webster's dictionary meaning of the word violent.

Main Entry: vi·o·lent
1 : marked by extreme force or sudden intense activity
2 a : notably furious or vehement
b : EXTREME, INTENSE
3 : caused by force : not natural
4 a : emotionally agitated to the point of loss of self-control >
b : prone to commit acts of violence

I can say although I do not abuse my children but when one looks at the meaning of violent it broke my heart that my words and actions toward them may seem violent.
I have used force or intense activity when I restrain them when I just cant get control of them.
I have showed them anger maybe even fury when I grab my head and hold on for dear life and my son runs screaming as he grabs his brother to save and says...Run she is gonna blow..
I have been extreme and intense when I exxagerate their behaviour and compare them to what I believe the ideal child should be.
And can I tell you how many times I have been agitated to the point of loss of self control and start yelling around the house.

This truly has been an eye opener.
But...today I thought to myself I will not react or speak violently.(Loud)
So I received a phone call at work about the boys behaviour and I was ready for it. So I walked the whole center court to get to them and when I got there the fear in their eyes as to say "OH MAN WE are gonna get it....."
I sat them at the table and I spoke to them and explained to them the dangers of what they were doing. Als o the sadness of their disobedience.
I then proceeded to tell them that they were going to write what they did wrong 100 times on a paper. I will not...
Can I tell you it worked like a charm. I walked away stress free and they had time to think...
And the most beautiful thing was that they received what they did wrong because to write it a hundred times makes them think about what they did. I went back to work and an hour later my oldest daughter called me and they were done.
I came home and did my routine and then when it came time for bed my boys ran up to me and hugged me and said Mama we will not do that bad thing. It really taught us a lesson. We Love you and now we want to do our blessings before bed.
Baruch Hashem I may go through a lot of paper but the beauty is I wont go through a lot of aggravation.
Don't get me wrong I am a firm disciplinarian but sometimes we need to back up and make them think and an hour of writing a mistake may help it sink in. They write ot over and have a positive affirmation of what they are NOT going to do.
Them sitting there quiet also helps us reflect on ourselves and keep us calm which keeps a calm home.
That is what Shalom Bayit is about.