Friday, May 2, 2008
Talk to your mom today!
As I sat down and started my monthly menu planning this morning, I know two days late, I was looking over last months menu. Recently my brother and his family came for a visit and I prepared a childhood favorite of ours. Cream corn with poached eggs. The eggs are poached right in the corn on low heat. This is a recipe that our mom made for us growing up. Mom worked nights and I honestly don't remember her cooking too too much, not everyday at least, we ate out with dad a whole lot, but this recipe I do recall.
Thinking how glad I was that my family enjoys it and that I learned to do it as well if not a little better, than mom, and that I would be able to pass it down to my daughter and daughters in law some day, I begin to feel sad. I never asked her if this was something that her mom made for her or was it something that she came up with on her own. I'll never know now. Then I started thinking of all the things that I hadn't asked her or found out about from her. The Alzheimers has taken my mom away from me very early. She is only 65 years old and just a couple of years ago was vibrant and beautiful. People often mistakened us for sisters, which made her feel really good, me not so much, she was my mom after all, lol. And now she lays there and doesn't even know who we are let alone what her mom cooked or didn't cook for her when she was child.
Like I said mom worked a lot and so with me off raising my family and her off doing her thing, we didn't talk too much. Granted I talked to her almost everyday, but we never really talked, you know what I mean. I was thinking the other day that Mother's Day is right around the corner and that the only gift I can give mom that she even enjoys is candy, and that is only when I can get her to eat a small bit. So take a little hint of advice from me, if you are lucky enough to stil have your mom with you, sit down with her on Mother's Day and have a great big long conversation with her. It will be the best gift that you both can give each other, I promise.
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Friday, May 2, 2008 - How right you are
 Posted by Anonymous
Kitty, you are so right.........and we just honestly never do know or realize what that means until it's too late. I picked up a Hungarian cookbook at the library the other day and all I could think about was my grandma and how much I would have loved to have shared it with her. To ask her if she recognized that city, or "doesn't she look like Great Grandma Vislavsky".........stuff like that. So you are absolutely right when you say to do it now...........we just really never do know what tommorrow holds....Love you! Melinda
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Posted by meme21713
OH, dear friend, I know you are sheding tears, I only wish I could be there to wipe them away and give you a much needed hug...You are right, once they are gone, there are so many unanswered questions you think of....Just talk to her, she may take in more than you think, even without a response...
Love you Miss Kitty...Hope to see you SOON !!!!!!! Debbie
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Friday, May 2, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by gabbie427
I understand dear. When mom died a year ago at age 63, my mind went through so many things that I wish I had asked her before she had died. Even now, I would love to ask her so many things. While cleaning out her house, I got her quilts and then I thought I wish I knew who made all these and of course my brothers could care less and they don't know.
Cherish the times you still have with your mother Kitty. If she isn't able to talk to you, then cherish the moments of holding her hand and talking to her. I can only imagine how many nights he did that for you as you were small.
I am praying for you dear. I love you!!!
God's Blessings,
Amy Jo
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