The Hunnicutt Homestead

My Love, My Husband

I am sitting here at the computer while my husband is taking the kids to school.  I haven't showered, my hair is yet uncombed and I'm quite sure I have leftover mascara under my eyes from yesterday.  I'm not exactly the picture of desire at this moment. One of my sons is home sick and I know I will be caring for him in the midst of juggling many other commitments today. 

Despite my groggy and sloppy morning appearance, my husband is a flirt.  I love it because he only flirts with me.  I just received a text message from him.  It was sent yesterday but for some reason my phone just now registered it.  I'm glad because if the message was an indicator of his thoughts at 8:49 am I would be a little worried!  Still, I'm glad he was thinking of me and took the time to show it.  He brings a smile to my face.

My husband is my best friend.  We would rather spend our time together than with anyone else.  We share the same interests, hobbies, struggles and goals in life.  We are 'equally yoked" in many ways.

Now, before you gag while reading this, keep in mind that we are still very different.  My husband likes to watch UFC fights on Youtube.  Not exactly my idea of fun.  He also likes to hunt, putter, and imitate the deaf and blind, especially when searching for something in the fridge or some other item he needs that he is not accustomed to getting for himself.  He burps and farts just like any other man.  He gets frustrated and storms about the house, grumbling about everything he doesn't like.  "People!" he admonishes when he thinks everyone else should be thinking as he does.  He can be very antagonistic.  He is a human male, full of muscle, sweat, stink, desires, frustration, goals, needs and he becomes weary at the end of the day, just like any other human male.

Despite his selfish human nature, I know that myself and the kids come first in his life and I know it by his actions.  I watch him pray, I watch him read his bible.  I know that the words contained in that book are giving him a different perspective on how to be a strong courageous man in a crazy world.  This an alternative to the common men posturing before us on tv these days, the beer drinking, idiotic men who are oggling women and acting like immature 13 year old boys.  Those men have never grown up.  They do not have discipline, self control, love nor do they have the strength to live with integrity and honor.  They pursue immediate gratification, pleasure, material things that do not last beyond this lifetime, or even this year, and they do so with the excuse of "I'm a guy".  Well, they may be guys, but they are not men.  They are definitely not of the caliber I want to share my life with, nor are they someone I would choose for my daughters.

When the going gets tough, and it will, what will be your husband's rock?  What will be his moral compass, the things that gives him guidance and direction to weather the storm?  Will he seek comfort in pleasurable things?  Will he seek to disappear into a make believe world of porn, video games, movies, tv, sports, alcohol, work or his buddies?  Or will he rise to the challenge that will test his mettle?

My huband is kind, generous, and hard working.  I have a husband who is strong and perservering.  I know this because after he's been working construction, chopping wood, cleaning windows and such, he still comes home, plays with the kids, gives me hugs, kisses, and asks how he can help when I 'm getting dinner ready.  He helps the kids with homework, helps me get our four kids in bed, then makes a pot of decaf tea for us to share as we visit and read together at the end of the day.  I do not share my husband with the tv, computer or other nonsense.  I am completely and totally in love with my husband.  He doesn't send me flowers or buy me things often.  I may get flowers from him once a year.  However, he spoils me rotten in ways that are meaningful to me.  He is there for me. 

So, when my husband messes up (which he does), or irritates me or makes me angry, I have so many good things about him to recall to memory.  I don't stay angry for long.  It becomes easy to forgive and overlook many imperfections, especially as I see him overlook mine.  My husband's love for me is a picture of Christ's love for me.  It is forgiving, hopeful and sacrificial.  Because of this, I am able to love my husband much and well because of how he demonstrates his love for me.  I want to please my husband and make him look at me with desire.  I want him to want only me and pursue me as he did when we were first dating and we were completely foolish for one another. 

My husband loves God.  This is the biggest reason I love my husband.  If he didn't seek how God wants him to live and make decisions, he wouldn't love me as well as he does.  He wouldn't consistently put others before himself, whether that means me, the kids, or our elderly and disabled neighbors.  These qualities make him very attractive.  I believe that God helped me to choose wisely when I chose him as my lifelong mate.  While we are definitely not perfect, we are perfect for one another!

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{ 03:29, Wednesday, October 29, 2008 } { Posted by chimicole }

What a lovely tribute to your husband and your marriage!
I feel the same way about my Mr. We are so very fortunate to have them in our lives, and may God continue to bless you and your marriage in the years to come!
Blessings~

Beautiful!

{ 04:58, Thursday, October 30, 2008 } { Posted by wannabeone }

That was one of the most beautiful things I've ever read. I think I will link to it. I'm SO glad you shared. You could have nearly been writing about my sweetheart, too! Aren't we blessed?

Blessings, Kim Wolf<><

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{ 05:34, Thursday, October 30, 2008 } { Posted by gabbie427 }

I love this post. I couldn't have written it better myself. I feel the same way about my hubby!!! We are so blessed that God gave us such wonderful men of God!!!

I used to have an awful self esteem. But hubby would tell me I love you, you are so beautiful. I would answer, but why??? He said because God made you that way, and he brought you into my life. How sweet.

Thanks for sharing.

God's Blessings,
Amy Jo

awesome

{ 12:58, Saturday, November 1, 2008 } { Posted by stitchesbyteresa }

Oh what an awesome portrait of a Godly husband! I am so glad you took the time to write this and share your hubby's traits with us as it is what I always pray to see in my hubby. Would you please pray for my hubby? I would appreciate it.

Teresa