• STEPS TO FOLLOW:
  

1. Choose a day to go to the grocery store for the express purpose of training your children.
2. Do not have a long list of groceries/items.  At a restaurant, don't plan on ordering more than a soda or something else that would be a simple treat. Etc...
   
3. Choose a time when the store (or wherever you're headed) will not be busy.
   
4. Before you leave the house, prepare the children. Sit down with them and tell them you're going to be going to [fill in the blank], together.  Go over precisely how you wish them to behave, verbally.
5. Practice the expected behavior before leaving. (This can be great fun!)
   
6. Before you get out of the car, play "Questions & Answers" with your little ones. Ask them what you want them to do when you walk in. Where are they supposed to be during the time there? Are they supposed to speak in a certain manner? Etc...
7. As you walk into the establishment, tell them you'll have to leave upon any misbehavior (and stick to this!)

• Grocery store
• Department store
• Restaurant (even fast food restaurants are NOT places for running or yelling!)
  
• Library
• Others' homes
• Bank

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Shared by maa

I have mine trained to behave in public places as well as at home.
We had our supper out tonight and as always it was an enjoyable treat.
I do get many compliments on the behavior of my children when we are out and It does bring joy to me.

It did not just happen though, it took training for my children to learn how to behave. The same kind of training that you have talked about in this post.

It is sad to see a parent being controlled by a child and that parent being sooo worn down.Last week, at the library, a very young mother of one child, was fighting with her five year old son.He was screaming, kicking and hitting her. She looked as if she would start crying at any moment.She took the boy and dragged him by his arm out of the library. He then sat down so that his mother would have to work extra hard to drag him to the car.She kept dragging him across the parking lot, he trew his head back and started clawing at her wrist.

This was an upsetting thing for my children and me to watch. I felt sad for the mother who did not train her child. I think this mother has not learned how to train a child.I wanted to help but I could have offended her.
Thanks for this post, it may help a parent with the training of a child.
maa's mom

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Shared by meme21713

When my kids were younger if they misbehaved in the store, right at that time they were corrected not when they got home and forgot what they are getting punished for...What a joy it was when we would go into a resturant and let the children 2-3-4 years of age sit alone at the table next to us and people would pass by an complaintment us on their behavior..That is when you know you are doing something right at home....Thanks for the post....Debbie

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Shared by Anonymous

Yeah, but what do you do when they WANT to leave the store??? My kids despise the store and if they knew that all they had to do was misbehave and we would actually leave, well, let's just say I would never buy a thing and my bank account would be full ~ and my cupboards bare!
I sometimes get rid of their favorite food that was on my list. Not a bribery, but something they miss out on for the week. I had a friend who trained her kids by telling them they were getting a "time out" when they got home. However, this mama taught her kids that a "time out" was actually a "firm swat" on the behind. So, when in public, she would just have to say, "If you don't stop this rude behavior, then you will get a TIME OUT when you get home!"
Brilliant!

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Shared by a1health

I liked your training session ideas. My stepson was not trained after 12 years when he came to live with us 1 year ago. We have had many training lessons and will continue.
Thank you for sharing.
Blessings,
~farrah

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