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Shared by Jackie

I'm just hoping that you don't hurt your children in any way when they don't follow "orders." So often women living your type of lifestyle abuse their children out of frustration.

~ From Carrie:
As I said in my article, tying must be done "WITHOUT ANGER or apology". Also... "my lifestyle" is one of Christian service and love. I believe the Bible in its entirety, and aim to live a life that reflects that.

Edited by rellamom on Monday, August 27, 2007 at 07:32

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Shared by Kitty

My 14 yo son and I have the same conversation almost everyday. Why can't I go ride my bike to Mcdonalds?" (which is only about 1/2 mile from our home) "Is it because you don't trust me?"
I always tell him, that it's not him that I don't trust, it's the other people.
I say hold on to your kids with what ever you have handy. I didn't hold tight enough to my older son and although he has a tremendous heart of gold, he does live a lifestyle that is not too pleasing to the Lord. With my younger son, Im holding tight this time. Good post.
Kitty

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Shared by Rose

I guess I sound a little like Kitty's son, don't I, Mom?
I've asked if you won't let me go somewhere because you don't trust me... :-)
I liked your post,even if I am not a mother.

~Rose

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Shared by HandsNHearts

Goodness....what kind of "lifestyle" is it folks think you live that you are abusing your children out of frustration? I wasn't aware there was a "lifestyle" that lead to child abuse.

It was funny you mentioned this...we were just talking about how when Christopher was younger, way back in the dark ages about 20 years ago or so, they used to sell those child tethers. Almost a traditional harness in style, it was meant to help keep wayward children a bit closer to Mom (or whoever) during the day. I could certainly use one of those again with Jacob!

I always wondered where that phrase originated...makes perfect sense. Our neighbor back north often told me about how her husband's mother would tether him on a line near the clothesline when she had tasks outside like hanging clothes and such, and he was not napping. They lived on a busy roadway. I'm sure the neighbors and passers-by thought plenty of seeing a 2 or 3 year old 'tied' to a runner on a clothesline, but it was much better than seeing him dart off into the roadway and come to harm or worse.

Seems to me many more folks need to tie those apron strings back on today, considering the younger ages of children being allowed to have free reign over every place they go. Can just imagine what those children are like at home and who wears the pants of authority in their families.
Deanna

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Shared by Patti

It seems that people think the apron strings should be cut at birth. People think children should be independent at such young ages. Doesn't K-2 programs tell you something?! Of course, I am NOT on this page at all, and I think we need to keep the apron strings tied as long as possible.

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Shared by findingcontentment

When my (now 12-year-old) son was a toddler/preschooler, we used one of those tethers whenever we went somewhere in public, like the mall. We received many condescending stares and people talking behind their hands, but we didn't care. Our child was one of those who was easily distracted and we thought it better to "tie him to our apron strings" than to have a stranger take off with him.

I have a 4-year-old now, but now we rarely go anywhere like the mall ; )
Barb J.

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Shared by Jonash2004

I have found with my toddler (who is now almost 18mo) that it greatly, tremendously helps my frusteration level to have him close by! I can see things coming, rather that just reacting to a clatter heard in another room.

It was so easy to teach my son to leave the trash can alone by correcting him *as he reached for the trash can* - after he'd flipped it over, I consider that too late! At least at the tender age I was dealing with - he was walking/running by 10mo. :)

Keeping my son close has helped me to keep my cool more than lose it . . . I really enjoy tomatoe staking!!!!

Ashley

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