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Say it like you mean it

Knowing you have to do the right thing when you really, really don't want to- doesn't make it any more fun. Really. It's like when kids hurt each other and we stand over them and say "Tell her you're sorry." Oh and sometimes we add, "Say it like you mean it."
My sister-in-law and I were just discussing this very thing the other night and chuckling over it as well as wondering if we were really teaching our children anything by doing it. I see kids hit one another and right away pipe up with an "I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry." Saying it as fast as they can and as much as they can in the hopes of stopping any coming retribution. Too often "I'm sorry" is only said to get yourself out of trouble.
I was a very stubborn, very independent thinking teen and never wanted to say I was sorry- for anything. Yes, I was misguided. More importantly, I didn't want to admit I was wrong. I have since grown up but am wondering if I haven't found myself in that old spot again. That spot where you'll only say you were wrong if the other party admits they were also wrong . . . . .

Problem right now- for this particular incident- I don't honestly see where I was wrong. I have asked my husband and he's not sure either.
So I'm in prayer. Praying the Lord will show me where I was wrong, praying for the Lord to lead me in dealing with the situation.
So far I'm just feeling God telling me to keep my mouth shut about it.
And I am thinking that is darn good advice.
But if it comes down to it- will I say I'm sorry like I mean it? Even if I am still clueless? Ah, hurts my head- I'm leaving this one totally up to the Lord- I'm not going to muck it up by over analyzing (another thing I'm good at).

Hmmmm....

5:50 PM, 2006-Dec-20 .. Posted by Lynne

Even when you really did nothing wrong, and this conflict is totally out of the blue, you can always just say, "I am sorry if what I said/did hurt your feelings. I value our relationship and I want us to be XXXXX (family, close friends, etc)..." Sometimes even when you are totally not in the wrong you have to be the stronger, wiser person and initiate the communication.
Sometimes you just have to keep your mouth shut. Prayer will make the answer obvious to you.

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8:24 AM, 2006-Dec-21 .. Posted by erisarei

Been there, done that and still am working through it. I'll be praying for you! :)

A wise man once told me.............

9:29 AM, 2006-Dec-21 .. Posted by gokings13

Where I work, there was a wonderful Italian man who used to say to us:
"Don't be sorry, be careful".
Truly wise words. If *I* am careful with my words, and careful with my deeds, I will have less to be 'sorry' for! The tounge is a mighty weapon. The Book of James talks sooooo much about it. I think I have the whole thing highlighted!!! And I still "open mouth and insert hoof"!!
Sometimes it is of no fault of our own.........don't always be so quick to blame yourself.
Prayer is your best defense!!
Laura