Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Walls, Walls and More Walls

Every turn I make brings me to yet another wall.

Each time I attempt to put one foot in front of the other, something blocks my way.

The custody hearing my husband brought before the courts is in less than one week, and I still do not have representation.

I was able to get a card with Judicare.

However, because my husband ended up filing something legal first, Judicare now cannnot help me. We're talking two different jurisdictions, and they do not pay for an attorney's travel costs.

So... they referred me to Legal Aid. There, I was painted an extremely grim picture, yesterday afternoon..

Because I have no "paper trail" (no police reports, etc...), I am told it will be very difficult to prove to the courts that my husband is unfit to take all five smaller children, much less trying to show that I had JUST CAUSE to leave in the first place.

(Try telling them you didn't report things out of fear of what would happen if you had! They don't care!)

They told me it was a felony for having "taken the children from their father" without "proven just cause" and that I had better have a pretty persuasive statement written up to present to the judge.

The woman at Legal Aid told me that we were looking at a very grim situation. One that is extremely bleak. She told me I might even be looking at a jail sentence.

FOR LEAVING A MAN WHO WAS EXTREMELY ABUSIVE!

Needless to say, I spent the remainder of the night in tears, feeling as though I should never have left to begin with. In fact, I was considering going back. Giving up.

My husband will always have all the power. I will never get out from under it.

My sister suggested I phone one of the attorneys I have spoken with in the past months to find out what their retainer fee was. The Legal Aid help did not look as though it was going to be any sort of help at all.

Unfortunately, I have no one in my family who can afford it. No one willing to help. To put a share into a "pot" toward it...

I still have no lawyer to represent me, and must go to court in five days.

To make matters even worse, I attempted to contact the three police stations that have had contact/calls regarding my husband. He has escalated since I left him and has spent much time stalking family members as well as staff members here at the shelter.

However, the number one stunning show of "out of control" behavior by by husband was not documented in a police report!

I spoke to the policemen that were on call that particular night. So far, no one is able to help me to create a report to "fill in the gap".

Meaning?

Meaning it is apparent that a person can mistreat and abuse his family, as well as stalk relatives, wives and others without a care or concern. It's easy to get away with it. In fact, you might even get rewarded.

How?

Well, by being physically, sexually and mentally abusive and by having a show of urinary incontinence and childish tantrum on your belly in the grass... by chasing innocent pizza delivery men and posting up flyers all over town defaming your spouse... by lying and deceiving and attempting to tell the police to arrest your wife who is "crazy" and about to murder your five children... you can gain custody of them.

She's helpless and you know it.

She can't prove a thing.

Good thing your mother pays your way out of everything, isn't it?! She's bought you the best attorney around! You're all set!

And ... the best part of all is how you can succeed at showing your wife that no matter where she flees... you still are the one in control of everything.

She'll never be free.

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Tuesday, July 29, 2008 - Untitled Comment

Monica
Said:

I still believe in you. Keep going- it's like I told Rose..."God saw what he did."