Apparently, my husband has filed for custody.

Whereas I was provoked to anger through the bitterness that has been pent up for ages, in hearing this news, a worker here told me she was not surprised.

“This is to be expected. It happens all the time. That’s the move most abusers make at this point.”

I vented a bit, wondering aloud why my husband would desire any form of custody when he was anything but an “active participant” in their lives.

It is very interesting how everything that is occurring is positively “textbook”.

But beyond that, all this is nerve-racking.

I lean on my Lord God, as always. It is He that provides strength, resilience, and grace to move forward without saying upsetting or nasty things about my husband to the workers, the children or others.

Especially the children.

But I do find it very odd that not once have they mentioned their daddy.

Not once have any of them asked where he is or when they could again see him. Not once have they wanted to speak with him on the phone.

Apparently, this morning, my mother-in-law phoned, lying. She said she saw me the day before and could she please talk with me on the phone?

“I do not know anyone by that name,” the worker insisted, realizing this was not someone I wished to talk to. She hadn’t known or provided my password.

She knew that what my husband’s mother was saying were lies.

My mother-in-law quickly became irate, and hung up on the shelter counselor.

Each time we are “hit” with another “surprise bomb” from my husband’s side, I am shocked and sent momentarily down the path of self-pity and bitterness.

But being that such emotions are a dangerous route, I try very hard to gear myself back onto the godly walkway.

Lord, please help me to see You, always.

Even when You feel further away than I'd like. 

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Anonymous
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I am so,so sorry this is happening to you and your sweet children. I have never been in this situation, so I will not even pretend to understand what you are going through. But we serve the same mighty God and to Him I will petition for your safety, comfort, peace and a quick resolution to this that's best for your children and you. God bless you my sister in Christ and keep safe.

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onlyme
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We are soooo praying for you and yours! I pray God's peace and protection over you and your children, trusting in Him because He cares for you!!!

We love you!!!

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Anonymous
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Dear Sister,

I was abused once by a former fiance. I managed to get out of the relationship 5 weeks before the intended wedding. Your plight is near and dear to my heart. We will pray for you and your children every night!

~A faithful reader

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Anonymous
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having spent my childhood 'in hiding' and losing growing up with my sister, my heart is shattered into pieces at your situation.
I hoep you know that you can talk to me at any time and while I may not have many 'useful' things to share in your situation, I have large shoulders to help carry the load and prayers to cover you all.
email or call me ANYTIME and do let me know if there is ANYTHING I can do to help!
HandsNHearts

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Candy
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I had no idea you all were enduring abuse - and broken ribs??? I'm sorry you all had to go through that. Yes, you need to look to the safety of your children and yourself.

Good job getting out of that abusive environment. The Lord has his finger on you, and His hand cuped over your children - trust in Him, and all things will work out for the good for you and your children.

God bless you, and let me know if there is something I can do (I'm praying, of course) to help you all out.

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chimicole
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I sent you an email... and a huge hug and lots of love to go with it!
Hang on dear Carrie... the Lord has blessed you and is keeping you and the children in His favor.

Love and prayers~
Julie

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Lori
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Oh my, I am so very saddened and sorry to hear about this Carrie. May the Lord bless and keep you and guide you in a very plain path. Having never been in an abusive situation like this, I cannot imagine the pain. Cling closely to the Lord. Please know you're being lifted up in prayer.

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Anonymous
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Oh Carrie,
(((((((((HUGS)))))))))))) I knew things weren't good, but had no idea they were this bad. I am praying for you and the children. Let me know if there is anything else you need. Let me know if there are any special ways we can pray for you and the kids as well. I am also praying for your husband and his mom that they see the truth in how he is, and that he receives help.
Cheryl

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gabbie427
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I don't know any facts about the situation, but I wanted you to know that I am praying for you and these children!!! I suggest you talk to DFS and find out how in yoru town, you can get a Children's Advocate for your children. They speak up for the children's sake and for what is best for them. And if the father has been abusive, or non existant for a while, they will make sure the judge knows about this as well!

Please keep us posted as you go through this, so we can pray for you more.

God's Blessings,
Amy Jo

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Anonymous
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Carrie,
I'm so sorry for what you and your children are suffering. I am praying for you. You did right to get out, for all your sakes.
My husband was verbally abusive to me for several years after we first married, which was a great shock to me as he never was before that. Also he was addicted to pornography which I didn't have a clue of for several years. When I found evidence of it on our computer he lied and I so wanted to believe him that I tried to believe him and forget about it. What I want you to know is that the Lord convicted him of his anger problem by showing him he was acting to me just like his mother acted to him. And the Lord called him out of the prison of porn and gave him a ministry to others in the same situation.
Though he still gets angry sometimes when under stress, it is very seldom and never as bad as it used to be.
I wonder sometimes if my yelling problem stems from bitterness I may still hold against him, though he has changed so much. I was so immature when we married and still am in many ways, I'm sorry to say.
Being quiet and shy myself, I held it all in, but it came out in my attitude, and still does too often.
I'll keep you in my prayers daily and hourly.
Jennie S.

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Anonymous
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Oh Carrie, I am so sorry you and your children are experiencing this trial. I will add you and your family to our daily prayer list. Please let us know if you would like us to pray for anything specific. Sending you much love and prayers from England.
Kaje

xxxx

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Anonymous
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Carrie,
I am so sorry that you and the children are having to endure this. I wish that there was something that I could do to help you. My father was verbally and emotionally abusive (still is) and I am terrified of him to this day. I am so thankful that my dh isn't like that! I pray that you will have help getting situated where you would like to be and that God's hand of protection will be on all of you.
Carie
www.misscarie.blogspot.com

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Anonymous
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I am praying for you! I am so sorry for the pain you have experienced/are experiencing.

Jen S.

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Anonymous
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Oh, Carrie! I'm so sorry for all that is happening to you. You are in my prayers!!! ~Nikki

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Anonymous
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I will be praying for you Mrs. Carrie.
Victoria

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Anonymous
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I really pray you never end up in jail. I pray that you have already gone to the police and filed a FULL report of ALL the abuse that took place for X ammount of years. My father is an officer and he says you could do it over the phone if you explain the situation. Praying is a must, but the Lord will not file the report for tou or the restraining order. If you feel like your life and your children's lives could be at stake and if you feel your Dh could perhaps kidnap them etc.if your back is turned..You MUST take action! B strong and couragous! The Lord created you strong!! You do not want your DH going to the authority before you have.He can say that you abanded him and kidnapped his DC. The courts would not be so understanding then. It is a fact! Protect your parental rights dear Carrie.

Your one of the sweetest most inspiring God loving ladies I have ever known. God will bless you and work things out...just please do your part too.

Love In Christ~Michelle

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