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Created to be his Help meet!

I am reading the book Created To Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl:

And after throwing the book across the room a few times I came to the realization that she really speaks the truth.  She is not crazy and judgementat as I first had thought, she is doing what God has commanded her to do.  She is teaching us women that our job as help meet and keepers of our home is a HUGE job!  You will not find a job description in all the world as detailed nor as important as this job, and she is teaching us the meat...no sugar coating and no beating around the bush.  She is putting her neck out and takes a lot of heat for what she says, and I admire that and am thankful for it!

Anyway all that to say, I wanted to list a few of the qualifications we have as wives and mothers listed in her book:

"The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not falce accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober,

Sober - To do one's duty, be moderate, self-controlled, thoughtful, and to learn to make wise decisions and judgements.

to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet,

Discreet - Prudent; wise in avoiding error and in selecting the best means to accomplish a purpose;circumspect;courteous, polite, honest dealings.

chaste,

Chaste - Pure in thought, word, and act, and to be modest and honorable in all things.

keepers at home,

Keepers - Being on guard, watching, caretaker.

Home - Seat of domestic life.

good,

A Good woman is genuine, joyful, virtuous, valuable, competent, ready, kind, benevolent, merciful, hardworking, agreeable, pleasant, congenial, honorable, faithful, gracious and wise.

obedient to heir own husbands,

Obedient - Yielding, willing and eager to accomplish injunctions or desires, abstaining from that which is forbidden.

that the word of God be not blasphemed.

Titus 2:3-5

Wow...is there a school where we can go to get a degree in all these areas??  Absolutly not!  We need to be seeking God's help and counsel in all these areas, our job is so very important and we can not risk doing it without His help.  You are all amazing women and I am so thankful that I have this family here to help me grow in the areas that I am weak (which is most), encourage me to seek the Lord and lifting me and my family up in prayer...I love you ladies!

Okay, this is turning out to be a bit more sappy than I had intended...Sorry!

My wonderful hubby!

Today I have been thinking how utterly blessed I am with my husband.  I called him to tell him that I am so impressed with him.  Not many women are able to stay home with their children, homeschool, have their bills paid, food put on the table, recieve fabulous gifts and be completely, loved and cherished by their husbands.  I told him that really he is something special.  I told him that even though he gets stressed and has to work many hours, I see God blessing him and his work.  My husband is self employed and is able to provide for not only the needs of our family, he goes out of his way to provide for our desires.  Even beyond that, he makes time to provide for us emotionally.  I had to tell him that for some reason, it dawned on me what a gift he is (duh...I know).  You know what he said??  Nothing for a moment...he was speechless, and this is when I realized that he needs to hear this all the time.  That is what I am here for...I am his helpmeet!  I can't do much by means of physically helping him, but I can help him other ways.  He is running a race for our family, and I need to be offering him that cool drink.  I need to be his refreshment when he has had a long day.  I need to encourage him and be his prayer warrior!!  Forget all his shortcomings, in the long run, he is doing so much so that his family can be blessed!  What an amazing man!!!  Our guys need to hear that they are special, that we know how hard they work.  My husband knows every little thing I am struggling with...I am a woman...I talk!!!!!  I cannot even begin to imagine what he struggles with because he has the heart not to want me to worry.  We can't wait till they are vocalizing their struggles, for a man, this may be too late!  We need to be anticipating it, uplift them...praise them...thank them...pray for them...interceed on their behalf...be the helpmeet God has called us to be!!

Okay, sorry,  I am now putting down the megaphone, and stepping off my soapbox.

Blessings, Rossie

Apples of Gold

Ok, seriously, this technology is for the birds!!!!!!  I just typed out my whole message, and somehow, it got deleted.......So here I go again!

My dear friend (raquel in my friends column, you should go visit her blog!) introduced me to the neatest bible study, called Apples of Gold.  It is an older women mentoring younger women study based on Titus 2.  Every meeting they give us a cooking demonstration, we share a meal, they give us wisdom in how to be the women God has created us to be and then we go through the book.  It is a six week study, so I thought I would share a few tid bits as I go through it with all of you!

Apples of gold in shining silver;

That's what our words should be.

May the glowing of Your Spirit

Reflect, O Lord, in me.

Help me to guard each word I speak;

May only love proceed,

So that what others hear from me, Lord,

Is really what they need.

May all my words be seasoned, Lord,

So richly by Thy grace,

Taht when others look upon me

They see Your glorious face.

God bless you all today!

Rossie

A Merry Heart

I have been reading Created To Be His Help Meet reciently, and I just keep going back to this chapter.  A merry heart.  I just love this word...Merry.  The more and more I am reading about this word, I want it in my life, I want to be this word!  "A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance: but sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken" Proverbs 15:13.  Debi Pearl writes, "God's will is for a wife to have a merry heart, a cheerful countenance and a glow that will refresh the most stressed and tired husband on the planet.  Bubbling cheer goes a long way to maintain or even restore a marriage.  Make a decision right now to break the "poor me habit.  Today, put it down as sin and rebellion, and then tomorrow, wake up with joy in your heart and home.  Establish a new habit...What can I do today that will make him smile?"

The word merry means: pleasing; full of fun; lively and festive.  I am sure there is a line where it can become a bit too much, but what husband would be able to resist his wife that makes him laugh and laughs at him?  I know I am not winning Phil when I am pouting to get my way or am angry when he does something wrong.  I just push him a little more away.  I know I will get my point across much more effectivly by persuing a merry spirit!

Anyhow, just wanted to share that!  Hope you are all having a wonderful day!  Blessings...Rossie