Wednesday, January 16, 2008
Proverbs 31 woman - Day 2
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Okay, ladies, here's where the rubber meets the road. Here's where it gets a tad difficult to swallow. Here's where I really, REALLY need to swallow some pride and admit I have much to work on. "Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long." WOW. OUCH. That was my toes being trounced on. And rightfully so. I've spent ALOT of time reflecting on this one. Does my husband trust me?? Sure he does. BUT.....without reserve?? Does he ever regret the times he's trusted me?? Oh, my. If only I had a nickel for every time I've caused distrust. I've tried to, in my human mind, make this section all about just the BIG THINGS in life. You know, marital fidelity (great), raising his children (pretty good), taking care of his STUFF (okey dokey with that, as long as I don't go in HIS garage) and maybe .....like.....taking care of the things he's worked hard for, like our beautiful leather furniture and our clothes and.......you know, stuff like that. But what about the OTHER stuff. The smaller, you really can't SEE it stuff? Like when he gives me X amount of money for GROCERIES, and I take some of it and use it for McDonalds or nail polish or Avon? What about the times small son eats in the living room, when Daddy is sleeping or the dog jumps up on the leather sofa to take a snooze and I do nothing about it? What about when my friends are talking and laughing about "men"?? And I say something like "oh, sure.....HUSBANDS.....what are ya gonna do, they're all the same"??? What about when he shares something with us that is personal, even difficult for him? And we 'tell' a friend or our mother or insinuate it in conversation in a group? Or even give it as a 'prayer request'?? The verse says he NEVER has reason to regret trusting me. NEVER. And I've been taught that NEVER means NEVER. Not once. Not even a teensy bit. Phew. And here's another one with that same word in it. NEVER spiteful, SHE........treats him generously ALL HER LIFE LONG. THAT'S a long time.......and NEVER??? Spiteful?? What does that word mean? Full of spite.....what is spite?? spite - n, 1. petty ill will or hatred with the disposition to irritate, annoy or thwart. spiteful - adj, 1. filled with or showing spite. Think about that. NEVER to wish that man you live with ill will. NEVER to have a disposition or tendency to irritate, annoy or thwart.....I cannot beGIN to suggest all that that implies. You mean, MY 'disposition' matters?? ALL THE TIME??? How many times have I slammed down a plate or slammed a door or yelled or purposely withheld.....well, withheld something important to him? How many times have I nagged and nagged and nagged (the best definition of nagging I've ever heard is: telling someone something they already know)......REMINDING him to do something I wanted him to do?? Annoying him to the point of him finally doing it just to shut me up? And thwart?? Aren't we women something?? We can manipulate and wheedle just about anything out of our man. OR we can make him change his plans. "Well, honey, I was thinking that instead of JUST going to that tractor supply store, we could maybe first stop by and just look at the flowers at the nursery".....and when the $$ is all spent, I have my flowers, and my husband decides he might as well not even GO to the supply store?? That's a thwarted plan, I'll tell ya! Generously. She treats him generously. You know, my God is generous with His blessings toward me. He was generous enough to send His only Son to die for my sins. So why in THE WORLD do I think generosity should only go ONE WAY?? ESPECIALLY toward the one person on this earth who is supposed to mean the most to me? Does my husband trust me completely because I am never spiteful and always treat him generously? If he doesn't.....then maybe I need to start lookin' in the mirror, eh? And praying daily, hourly........minute by minute for grace enough to pass on. Denise aka The Domestic Angel |
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