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Friday, March 2, 2007 - modesty

Posted by kissesmomof4
Hi there. I have one daughter (7) amoung three sons. I think that dresses and skirts are also the most modest and appropriate apparel for women.

My daughter often would like to wear pants just because that is the norm in society now and because the girls she was around wore them. The solution I have found is just not to buy her pants or shorts. It may sound mean but at the age our girls are we buy their clothing so it is appropraite that we can dictate the style. However........

I think to avoid back lash later when they can purchase their own clothing it is wise to allow girls to choose syles and colors of their clothing with in the guidlines you set for them. When I am out looking for clothing with my daughter she knows my guidlines. Shirts must not be too tight, they must meet the waist line of the skirt, skirts and dresses must at least go down an inch or two past the knee and they may not be tight. She has no problem with those rules and is happy to be a modest young lady when I give her some say in her wardrobe.

Friday, March 2, 2007 - Untitled Comment

Posted by Patti
I pretty much wear only dresses, jumpers, and skirts. My daughter (17) also chooses to pretty much wear only skirts. She will wear pants (not tight or low-riders) when she is doing something, like bike-riding or hiking (when we go camping) or bowling. In those cases, it seems more modest to wear pants instead of risking having her undergarments show should she take a fall. (Plus, how do you bike ride with a dress?) Anyhow, she recognizes that in a dress/skirt she just feels more feminine.

As for your girls, provided your husband is in agreement, I don't see anything wrong with you telling them how they should dress. Just because most parents of today have abdicated their responsibity to properly raise their children, doesn't mean that we all need to do so. We need to guide our children in everything, and that includes dressing. And they need to be taught to obey in all things...and that includes dressing. Perhaps if you allowed pants for certain activities (like my daughter does) and then allowed a choice of colors or styles, they would feel that they had some input. Also, dressing differently from the girls around them may be hard, but we want to train our children that being a Christian and walking according to the Lord's ways WILL make them different from the world. May they be willing to stand alone and not be conformed to this world!
Blessings,
Patti

Saturday, March 3, 2007 - Untitled Comment

Posted by Anonymous
I agree with the thoughts left so far. If you believe that dresses are what is appropriate and proper for them for modesty, they are 7 and 9 years old...they are still, by far, children, not discerning adults to be making decisions. If your husband believes that dresses are appropriate, there really is no decision for the children to make, aside from perhaps color choices.
In our family, we fully believe that dresses are what our daughters should be wearing, according to Scripture, therefore there is no discussion on the matter unless Dad deems pants of some kind more appropriate for whatever reason. We do not buy pants for our girls, so really, in their choices of what to wear, it's dresses or skirts and that's that.
The 'world' offers the children all of Wal-Mart or whatever store and says "let's pick out your clothes...what do you like?" and they do this from very young ages. I don't believe in that. There are levels of decision a child should and can make, but to offer them a buffet of clothing of all sorts and give them free reign is breeding many many troubles later on in life. Offering them a small selection to choose from, within your guidelines of what is modest and proper, gives them their choice but still maintains their modesty.
Just my thoughts...
Deanna

Saturday, March 3, 2007 - Untitled Comment

Posted by HandsNHearts
Email me off the boards here and I'll get you the photos of the dresses and such we offer at Homestead Creations :o)
Deanna
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