Be Ye Separate

Not MY daughter you don't!

Blessings!

   I know I've written about this before but after overhearing a rather dismaying conversation, it brings it all rushing back to me!

   The conversation was held by a mother at the window at our doctors office. I was standing behind her as were a dozen other folks while she ranted and raved over not one but TOW PAP smears done on her teenage daughter who happened to be standing by her side. Overhearing the confirmation of the birthdate on this child it turned out she was only 14!

   I recalled a time a little over a year ago when our Miss Mary-Ann was having such issues with her stomach that we ended up at OHSU in Portland with a specialist.

   The whole ordeal began with us worrying that she was having an appendicitis.  After running lots of blood tests and poking her poor tummy and asking her tons of questions the doctors took me aside and said they thought there were one of two choices...either she needed to go see a GYN or she needed to see a psychologist! Hmmmmm...grrrrr!

   The doctor then suggested that he call in a GYN staffer to take a look at "things" before proceeding. I asked what he meant and he said, "Well, we should probably get a PAP on her to give us an indication of what might be happening with ovaries and cervical issues that might cause this sort of pain. I told him "Not MY daughter you don't!" He asked me if I thought she was and "innocent". I said she certainly was and he told me I was either terrible stupid and gullible or I was choosing to hide my head in the sand. !!!!!!!!! Need I say more?

   After returning to our own doctor who knew she wasn't the type to make up pain for attention decided to do a few more tests along with an ultrasound, a catscan and an MRI. The blood tests came up negative for most everything, the ultrasound didn't seem to show much, the catscan saw a little something (we started getting worried) and the MRI showed that her spleen was very large. More blood tests and more pokes and prods later they decided she should see a gastroenterologist specialist up at Doernbecher's Children's Hospital at OHSU.

   The doctors assistant (he was a interning student and this is a teaching hospital), asked if we had considered a GYN for her. They had several that were "very good" with adolecents...Ummmmm...NO? He too asked if we thought she was "inactive". I said absolutely and he smirked at me...SMIRKED! Papa had heard enough. He said, "Not MY daughter you don't!" The man tried to reason but Papa made it quite clear that there wasn't anyone on this planet that was going to "violate" his daughter. She was chaste and pure and he intended to keep her that way until her wedding night! NO one was going to touch her!

   After he left us, confused and a little unnerved, the doctor finally came in. A very sweet oriental man who also happened to be Christian! He was wonderful. He decided to do a upper and lower GI scope which we scheduled and did within a few weeks only to find that not only was her spleen enlarged greatly but her upper GI was covered with ulcers! Her stomach was filled with them as well. She had Helicobacter Pylori causing Pyloric spasms that was causing a LOT of the pain along with the Splenomegaly (enlarged spleen). With all that poor girl had going on it was amazing she didn't have bleeding ulcers. Immediate medications and huge diet change made things better within a few months. She still suffers now and then with flareups but she's doing SO much better:) AND we were able to rule out Crohn's Disease:) Thank you Jesus! But I digress!

   All this to say that I find it just heartbreaking that so many mothers are falling into this deceptive web of health concerns and PREvention. Now, don't get me wrong, there are exceptions, but those are actually not very common. I have known so many Christian parents who have given in to this pressure, unawares and naive, out of concern for their daughters. Later they regret and lament it because they didn't know any better. 

    Keep in mind that I am not speaking of sexually active teens, I'm speaking about our chaste and pure daughters who have taken that vow of chastity and wish to keep themselves for their future husbands at all cost. These girls who are innocent and pure, who trust mom and dad to watch over them and keep them from these physicians who are out to make a name for themselves. These girls need to know that we would never allow anyone to harm them even in the name of science! What about the name of the Lord?

   In the name of our Lord and Saviour, protect your daughters. Don't give in to these seemingly well meaning medical professionals who prey on folks who only want what's best and who put such faith in them. If you are going to have faith...have faith in the Lord:)

   As a last note, our Mary-Ann thanked us both for not only believing in her but taking a stand and protecting her from a humiliating and violating procedure all in the name of science.

   Watching that little girl at the doctors window this evening as she looked so sad and shattered over it all, my heart just ached for her. Her mother ranting for all to hear about lost tests and wanting it redone right now and on and on and on. A child's innocence tossed away, her confidence shaken, her trust.........

   Thank you Lord for a husband and father that will stand firm in his faith and conviction on behalf of our innocent children in Your name.

God be with thee!

Sister Lori

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{ 21:27, Tuesday, February 19, 2008 } { Posted by mommaofmany }

Unbelievable! Thanks for this post, from this momma of five little girls, the eldest almost 12. We rarely go to the doctor, but when we do, I NEVER leave them alone. This is one of the reasons why!

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{ 05:19, Wednesday, February 20, 2008 } { Posted by mvose1051 }

Oh Sister Lori how I do remember this time in your life. I remember you writing about it as it happened. How is Mary-Ann now? As you know, I also have 2 daughters & I can imagine the fear & embarrassment on that girl's face in that office. As a grown woman, it is still the same!
Blessings,
Miki

~~~Blessings Sister Miki!
She's doing much better although her stomach does flare up now and then. She knows what she can and cannot eat so she avoids those things when her stomach is bothering her. It's awful hard to stay away from those yummy fried foods though:P
As for the other, it IS embarrassing and humiliating. We made it quite clear that through technology today there are a LOT less invasive ways of seeing the same thing without having to go through a much more personal and shattering route.
God be with thee!
Sister Lori

Edited by SisterLori on Wednesday, February 20, 2008 at 10:35

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{ 07:51, Wednesday, February 20, 2008 } { Posted by gabbie427 }

Wow. Thanks for posting this!!!!

God's Blessings,
Amy Jo

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{ 09:40, Wednesday, February 20, 2008 } { Posted by leighannwhitten }

Sister Lori,
Thank you so much for this post!
Blessings,
Leigh-Ann

I am growling right with you!

{ 09:14, Thursday, February 21, 2008 } { Posted by specialmom42000 }

I get so FRUSTRATED....when I hear commercials about vaccinating VERY young girls for the Human papiloma virus....that can ONLY be gotten through sexual contact....my daughter is now 21, but I would NOT nor have we given her the shot! I would NEVER have my young daughter get something that is unnecessary at that age. I believe it is asking for trouble...

Oh boy could I go on...I have a niece who is 6 and I have firmly stated my opinion to my brother...who is in total agreement with me...however, his wife is not....GGGRRR....I also have a toddler granddaughter, and I have expressed my opinion to my son and daughter in law...they also agree with me...

BUT...why do doctors feel they need to "accost" young innocent girls before it is necessary....

Okay enough...I am glad to hear you daughter is "okay"...my DH has crohn's disease, and it isn;t a fun one to deal with !

Blessings, Kelly

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{ 16:29, Friday, February 22, 2008 } { Posted by OklahomaSweetPea06 }

My heart just fluttered at the thought of how humiliated that one young girl must have felt like with her mother ranting on like she did. This is all I have to say to this world..... NOT EVERYONE IS DOING IT!!!! why cant they get it, its like they wanna preach safe "sex" but yet they dont want to hear that maybe safe sex involves NO SEX until marriage. Good for you, good for you husband( that speaks volumes on the love he has for his children as a man and leader of the home) good for your daughter for being able to stand up for what she knows is her blessing through the Lord and that is saving herself for her husband....

Oh my Heavens!

{ 06:12, Saturday, March 1, 2008 } { Posted by savdn4gvn }

As embarrassed as I am to say this......I would not have thought of that examination being a violation of my daughter if the Dr. told me it was "medically" necessary. I probably would have thought I was being a horable mom if I did not do what was "medically" necessary. Well I feel differently now. Thank you.
HUGS!
Carrie