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Genesis 2:18-24
The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make
a helper suitable for him."...So the man gave names to all the
livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field. But for
Adam no suitable helper was found. So the LORD God caused the man to
fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the
man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a
woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to
the man. The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my
flesh; she shall be called 'woman,' for she was taken out of man." For
this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his
wife, and they will become one flesh.

Gen 2:18-24 Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to live alone. I will make a suitable companion to help him."
So he took some soil from the ground and formed all the animals and all the birds. Then he brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and that is how they all got their names.
So the man named all the birds and all the animals; but not one of them was a suitable companion to help him.
Then the LORD God made the man fall into a deep sleep, and while he was sleeping, he took out one of the man's ribs and closed up the flesh.
He formed a woman out of the rib and brought her to him.
Then the man said, "At last, here is one of my own kind--- Bone taken from my bone, and flesh from my flesh. 'Woman' is her name because she was taken out of man."
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united with his wife, and they become one.

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Fathers had the same god-given authority over a woman's prayer life and
spiritual leadership, as her husband:
Numbers 30:3-8, 16
"When a young woman still living in her father's house makes a vow to
the LORD or obligates herself by a pledge and her father hears about her
vow or pledge but says nothing to her, then all her vows and every
pledge by which she obligated herself will stand. But if her father
forbids her when he hears about it, none of her vows or the pledges by
which she obligated herself will stand; the LORD will release her
because her father has forbidden her. "If she marries after she makes a
vow or after her lips utter a rash promise by which she obligates
herself and her husband hears about it but says nothing to her, then her
vows or the pledges by which she obligated herself will stand. But if
her husband forbids her when he hears about it, he nullifies the vow
that obligates her or the rash promise by which she obligates herself,
and the LORD will release her...These are the regulations the LORD gave
Moses concerning relationships between a man and his wife, and between a
father and his young daughter still living in his house.

Num 30:3-8, 16 When a young woman still living in her father's house makes a vow to give something to the LORD or promises to abstain from something,
she must do everything that she vowed or promised unless her father raises an objection when he hears about it.
But if her father forbids her to fulfill the vow when he hears about it, she is not required to keep it. The LORD will forgive her, because her father refused to let her keep it.
If an unmarried woman makes a vow, whether deliberately or carelessly, or promises to abstain from something, and then marries,
she must do everything that she vowed or promised unless her husband raises an objection when he hears about it.
But if her husband forbids her to fulfill the vow when he hears about it, she is not required to keep it. The LORD will forgive her.
Num 30:16 These are the rules that the LORD gave Moses concerning vows made by an unmarried woman living in her father's house or by a married woman.

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Deuteronomy 21:18-21
If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who does not obey his father
and mother and will not listen to them when they discipline him, his
father and mother shall take hold of him and bring him to the elders at
the gate of his town. They shall say to the elders, "This son of ours is
stubborn and rebellious. He will not obey us. He is a profligate and a
drunkard." Then all the men of his town shall stone him to death. You
must purge the evil from among you. All Israel will hear of it and be
afraid.

Deu 21:18-21 "Suppose someone has a son who is stubborn and rebellious, a son who will not obey his parents, even though they punish him.
His parents are to take him before the leaders of the town where he lives and make him stand trial.
They are to say to them, 'Our son is stubborn and rebellious and refuses to obey us; he wastes money and is a drunkard.'
Then the men of the city are to stone him to death, and so you will get rid of this evil. Everyone in Israel will hear what has happened and be afraid.
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A daughter's purity is in the protection of the father, and he with her
mother is required to answer for it:
Deuteronomy 22:13-18
If a man takes a wife and, after lying with her, dislikes her and
slanders her and gives her a bad name, saying, "I married this woman,
but when I approached her, I did not find proof of her virginity," then
the girl's father and mother shall bring proof that she was a virgin to
the town elders at the gate. The girl's father will say to the elders,
"I gave my daughter in marriage to this man, but he dislikes her. Now he
has slandered her and said, 'I did not find your daughter to be a
virgin.' But here is the proof of my daughter's virginity." Then her
parents shall display the cloth before the elders of the town, and the
elders shall take the man and punish him.

Deu 22:13-18 "Suppose a man marries a young woman and later he decides he doesn't want her.
So he makes up false charges against her, accusing her of not being a virgin when they got married.
"If this happens, the young woman's parents are to take the blood-stained wedding sheet that proves she was a virgin, and they are to show it in court to the town leaders.
Her father will say to them, 'I gave my daughter to this man in marriage, and now he doesn't want her.
He has made false charges against her, saying that she was not a virgin when he married her. But here is the proof that my daughter was a virgin; look at the bloodstains on the wedding sheet!'
Then the town leaders are to take the husband and beat him.

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As long as a woman is not pledged to marriage, she, in God's eyes,
belongs to her father:
Deuteronomy 22:28-29
If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and
rapes her and they are discovered, he shall pay the girl's father fifty
shekels of silver. He must marry the girl, for he has violated her. He
can never divorce her as long as he lives.

Deu 22:28-29 "Suppose a man is caught raping a young woman who is not engaged.
He is to pay her father the bride price of fifty pieces of silver, and she is to become his wife, because he forced her to have intercourse with him. He can never divorce her as long as he lives.

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A woman who has left her father and married a man, but is now a widow
or divorced, is not under the authority of a man, but is in the sight of
God free to make decisions for herself; however, she alone bears the
consequences of those decisions:
Numbers 30:9
"Any vow or obligation taken by a widow or divorced woman will be
binding on her.

Num 30:9 A widow or a divorced woman must keep every vow she makes and every promise to abstain from something.

and another scripture on the same topic:

Ruth 2:5-11
Boaz asked the foreman of his harvesters, "Whose young woman is that?"
The foreman replied, "She is the Moabitess who came back from Moab with
Naomi. She said, 'Please let me glean and gather among the sheaves
behind the harvesters.' She went into the field and has worked steadily
from morning till now, except for a short rest in the shelter." So Boaz
said to Ruth, "My daughter, listen to me. Don't go and glean in another
field and don't go away from here. Stay here with my servant girls.
Watch the field where the men are harvesting, and follow along after the
girls. I have told the men not to touch you. And whenever you are
thirsty, go and get a drink from the water jars the men have filled."
At this, she bowed down with her face to the ground. She exclaimed, "Why
have I found such favor in your eyes that you notice me—a
foreigner?" Boaz replied, "I've been told all about what you have done
for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband—how you left
your father and mother and your homeland and came to live with a people
you did not know before. 12 May the LORD repay you for what you have
done. May you be richly rewarded by the LORD, the God of Israel, under
whose wings you have come to take refuge."

Rth 2:5-11 Boaz asked the man in charge, "Who is that young woman?"
The man answered, "She is the foreigner who came back from Moab with Naomi.
She asked me to let her follow the workers and gather grain. She has been working since early morning and has just now stopped to rest for a while under the shelter."
Then Boaz said to Ruth, "Let me give you some advice. Don't gather grain anywhere except in this field. Work with the women here;
watch them to see where they are reaping and stay with them. I have ordered my men not to molest you. And whenever you are thirsty, go and drink from the water jars that they have filled."
Ruth bowed down with her face touching the ground, and said to Boaz, "Why should you be so concerned about me? Why should you be so kind to a foreigner?"
Boaz answered, "I have heard about everything that you have done for your mother-in-law since your husband died. I know how you left your father and mother and your own country and how you came to live among a people you had never known before.

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Matthew 19:4-6
"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made
them male and female,'and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his
father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one
flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has
joined together, let man not separate."

Mat 19:4-6 Jesus answered, "Haven't you read the scripture that says that in the beginning the Creator made people male and female?
And God said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and unite with his wife, and the two will become one.'
So they are no longer two, but one. No human being must separate, then, what God has joined together."

Notice that the daughter is not commanded to leave her father and
mother; only the son, for the father gives his daughter away rather than
her leaving of her own will. I could not find this practice specified
in books of the law of the Torah, but it was obeyed by all of our
biblical examples of spiritual forefathers. The daughter was never
taken, except in war...she was always GIVEN by her father. But a man
leaves his childhood and cleaves to his wife, having in her the helpmeet
that he needs to fulfill his life without his family.

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Ephesians 5:29-33
After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for
it, just as Christ does the church — for we are members of his body.
"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to
his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound
mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each
one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife
must respect her husband.

Eph 5:29-33 (None of us ever hate our own bodies. Instead, we feed them, and take care of them, just as Christ does the church;
for we are members of his body.)
As the scripture says, "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and unite with his wife, and the two will become one."
There is a deep secret truth revealed in this scripture, which I understand as applying to Christ and the church.
But it also applies to you: every husband must love his wife as himself, and every wife must respect her husband.

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The father is responsible for the man whom his daughter marries;
however, afterwards, it is the responsibility of her husband to treat
her with faithfulness:
Deuteronomy 7:2-6
...Make no treaty with them, and show them no mercy. Do not intermarry
with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their
daughters for your sons, for they will turn your sons away from
following me to serve other gods, and the LORD's anger will burn against
you and will quickly destroy you. This is what you are to do to them:
Break down their altars, smash their sacred stones, cut down their
Asherah poles and burn their idols in the fire. For you are a people
holy to the LORD your God. The LORD your God has chosen you out of all
the peoples on the face of the earth to be his people, his treasured
possession.

Deu 7:2-6 When the LORD your God places these people in your power and you defeat them, you must put them all to death. Do not make an alliance with them or show them any mercy.
Do not marry any of them, and do not let your children marry any of them,
because then they would lead your children away from the LORD to worship other gods. If that happens, the LORD will be angry with you and destroy you at once.
So then, tear down their altars, break their sacred stone pillars in pieces, cut down their symbols of the goddess Asherah, and burn their idols.
Do this because you belong to the LORD your God. From all the peoples on earth he chose you to be his own special people.

Malachi 2:13-17
Another thing you do: You flood the LORD's altar with tears. You weep
and wail because he no longer pays attention to your offerings or
accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, "Why?" It is
because the LORD is acting as the witness between you and the wife of
your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your
partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Has not the LORD made them
one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was
seeking godly offspring. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not
break faith with the wife of your youth. "I hate divorce," says the
LORD God of Israel, "and I hate a man's covering himself with violence
as well as with his garment," says the LORD Almighty. So guard
yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith. You have wearied the
LORD with your words. "How have we wearied him?" you ask. By saying,
"All who do evil are good in the eyes of the LORD, and he is pleased
with them" or "Where is the God of justice?"

Mal 2:13-17 This is another thing you do. You drown the LORD's altar with tears, weeping and wailing because he no longer accepts the offerings you bring him.
You ask why he no longer accepts them. It is because he knows you have broken your promise to the wife you married when you were young. She was your partner, and you have broken your promise to her, although you promised before God that you would be faithful to her.
Didn't God make you one body and spirit with her? What was his purpose in this? It was that you should have children who are truly God's people. So make sure that none of you breaks his promise to his wife.
"I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel. "I hate it when one of you does such a cruel thing to his wife. Make sure that you do not break your promise to be faithful to your wife."
You have tired the LORD out with your talk. But you ask, "How have we tired him?" By saying, "The LORD Almighty thinks all evildoers are good; in fact he likes them." Or by asking, "Where is the God who is supposed to be just?"

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A daughter does not leave her father's house of her own will, but
rather, her father gives her away. Her father has the choice to give
her away to a man, or to consecrate her to the Lord for service:

1 Corinthians 7:34-38
There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried
woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in
body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the
world, how she may please her husband. And this I speak for your own
profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is
comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction. But
if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if
she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he
will, he sinneth not: let them marry. Nevertheless he that standeth
stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own
will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin,
doeth well. So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he
that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.

Please note: for this study, I have used the NIV version of the bible.
I really like it's simplicity. However, I do not believe that the NIV
has translated the above scripture correctly, so I am using KJV. This
is why: verse 36 in the NIV states that the "If anyone thinks he is
acting improperly toward the virgin he is engaged to" that he should
marry her, but in verse 38 it says, "So then, he who marries the virgin
does right, but he who does not marry her does even better." This
contradiction has never made sense to me, that God would be okay with a
man engaging a woman but not marrying her. Paul tells men earlier in
this passage that a man who sets himself apart from the Lord makes it a
point to not be distracted by a woman...how can this happen if he is
engaged? I like the KJV version of this translation better, because it
speaks of the father giving his virgin away, which more adequately
reflects the culture of the Bible as a whole, and the traditions even of
that day.

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Thursday, March 29, 2007

A Daughter being under Authority of her Father

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