The Busy Bee Mama

A Help Meet To Our Husbands

Good Morning!  With Valentines Day being tomorrow I thought I would talk about a great gift you can give that won't cost you one dollar.  It's a gift that will actually improve your marriage.  It really works.  I've witnessed the miracle in my own marriage and that's why I want to share my little secret with you.  Last year I read the book by Debi Pearl entitled, Created To Be His Help Meet.  Each chapter gives you more ideas on how to be the wife God created you to be for your husband.  I am reading it for the second time and am enjoying it even more this time.  Order a copy today!  I want you to have some of that wisdom today so this Valentine's Day can be one your husband will always remember as the day you became his Help Meet.  In order to explain I will need to get Biblical here.  All of my references are from the King James Bible. 
     It all started with Adam and Eve, the first couple on Earth.   In Genesis 2:18 we read, "And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him."  We are to be helpers to our husbands in all that they do.  We are to realize that they have authority over us and we are to be obedient helpers to them.  What they ask of us should be met with a smile and willingness.  If you are disobedient to your husbands you are being disobedient to God as well.  Last week my husband was digging a ditch outside in the cold.  I had many chores to complete at that time.  As I looked at him out there hard at work I wondered if he would like some company.  I instructed the kids to stay inside and I went out.  He was so delighted to see me.  I didn't say much.  I just stood there for the most part.  He was very pleased with that gesture.  He needed a little recognition of the hard work he was doing, which I gave.  It was a very good use of twenty minutes. 
   You see we were created for man, specifically our husbands.  God didn't want Adam to be alone.  Thus Eve became Adam's friend.  Are you your husband's friend?  Are you the person he wants to talk to?  Are you a good friend to your girlfriends but not a good friend to your husband?  Think about those questions for a moment.  If you are your husband's best friend that is wonderful!  If so you can still improve your relationship and make that friendship even stronger.  If you are not your husband's friend it is not too late.  You can start being his friend again today.  Yesterday, I heard a radio program about infidelities within a marriage.  The gentleman speaking had carried on an affair for three years.  He said that what lured him into the affair was how the woman hung onto his every word.  YIKES!!!!!  How many of us tune out our spouse?  I know I have been guilty there from time to time.  He also said she made eye contact with him regularly, smiled, complimented him, and being that they worked together she helped him.  Last on the list was her physical attractiveness.  Surprised?  I was.  Physical attractiveness is important to men but not the most important quality he looks for in a mate.  Recently my husband made mention of a woman we know and said, "She is pretty on the outside but ugly on the inside."  Sometimes we confuse the notion that men only care about physical attraction.  Don't misunderstand me here, we should care about how we look for our husbands.  Think about how you looked when you first started to date.  Did you wear baggy clothing, no makeup, a bad hairdo?  I didn't.  Two women I know schedule in time everyday to "pretty up" for their husbands.  Guess what?  They have excellent marriages too!  Coincidence?  I don't think so.  Did your husband get a prize when he married you?  Yes He Did! It only takes a few moments to "pretty up". 
    Let's get back to scripture here.  Scripture gives us many instructions on how we are to Godly Wives for our husbands.  I would like you to read these verses and really put some thought into what God is telling us.  As you read these think of that man I spoke of earlier and what he said intrigued him into an extramarital affair. 
Proverbs 16:24 "Pleasant words are as honeycomb, sweet to the soul and health to the bones."
Proverbs 17:17 "A friend loveth at all times."
Proverbs 17:22 "A merry heart doeth good like medicine but a broken spirit drieth the bones."
Proverbs 31:10 "Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies."
Proverbs 31:12 "She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life."
Proverbs 31:26 "She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness."
Proverbs 31:30 "Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised."
  The Valentines Day gift I spoke of earlier can be wrapped up into one sentence I think. LOL!!!  Give your mate the gift of a beautiful smile, attentiveness, a merry heart, goodness, pleasant words, a nice appearance, and real friendship.  What follows may surprise you.  That will be your Valentines Day gift! LOL!!!  
Happy Valentines Day from my heart to yours!
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{ 09:47 , Wednesday, February 13, 2008 } { Posted by blessedmomof10 }

Great post! Good insights... I have been focusing a great deal lately on my marriage...... it is a very important part of our lives and one we should stive to work on constantly.

Blessings~~
gloria