My last fews posts seem to have stirred some hearts... some wonderful and encouraging, some rather bitter and discouraging.

In my very last post I suggested something much deeper is going on when people attack you or look down on you because you have "so many" children.  Have any of you chewed on this?  Another unpleasant anonymus comment to that post gives us a clue to what's really going on in the hearts of these people.  He/she (I'm guessing "she") refers to mothers as "baby-making machines."  Don't you think that alone speaks volumes???  Here we have a glimpse of a decieved heart... a sadly warped perspective of family, mothering in particular.  Seems the larger my family grows, the more of this I run into.
       I'd be willing to bet (you know, if I were the gambling type) that all of my nasty commenters so far are mothers of only a couple young children and very discontent with their position.  I beg you, nasty commenters, next time remain anonymus if you must, but do tell us how many children you have and whether or not you stay at home with them.  Oh, also, what you'd rather be doing.

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Posted by dukygurl

sigh, I agree. You know it is not uncommon to feel discontent, I do sometimes with my two girls ages 4 and 1 but MY heart is changing. They are children and they need me. What could the world or a job offer me that is better than those tiny arms wrapped warmly around my neck? Those sweet little cheers and squeals when daddy comes home from a hard day of work? One of my most heart warming memories of both children is looking into their eyes late at night while I nurse them, they have both reached for me with little smiles and it has been worth the loss of sleep. It has been worth the difficult times to see these days come to pass, that they are happy.

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Posted by gokings13

Proverbs 9:7-8

7 "Whoever corrects a mocker invites insult;
whoever rebukes a wicked man incurs abuse.

8 Do not rebuke a mocker or he will hate you;
rebuke a wise man and he will love you.

Proverbs 26:10-12

10 Like an archer who wounds at random
is he who hires a fool or any passer-by.

11 As a dog returns to its vomit,
so a fool repeats his folly.

12 Do you see a man wise in his own eyes?
There is more hope for a fool than for him.

I don't think your status and ability to purchase groceries is anyone's business but you and God. There are oodles of Scripture that talk about, food, working, God's Provision, how "The Church" (not that building that everyone like to play church in) and it's responsibility to other Believers and parts of the Body, and the like.
I would just delete the foolish entries and not entertain their hatefulness........or just make it to where only registered users can comment, or just shut off comments all together.

It's a shame that anonymous blasters are out there, but they are!! Just like bullies on the playground, only more coward because they don't have a face, name, or location!

Laura

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Posted by Citygal

Hi from New Zealand,
I've just been reading this and wanted to write and encourage you. I can't believe the poison that comes out of some people's mouths! (or minds and fingers in this case). Don't you let them worry you. I kinow how sometimes these nasty comments can eat away in your mind. I have always said to my friends who only have a couple of children on the excuse that they have to feed and educate them that if it were me and I was that baby, I'd much rather be born poor and uneducated and be alive, than not to exist at all. At least in our countries you have the chance to make something of yourselves.
I have always taken the belief that my fertility is a blessing when so many nowadays are unable to have children, and not to take it for granted. I do not like the fact that my country is a 'welfare state' either, but on the other hand I am grateful that it is wealthy enough to provide this for people in true need. I have friends who have been through tough times and have had to rely on the government, and it's usually only for a season to help them get back on their feet. I am glad that they don't have to walk out of their homes and go and live on the streets like they do in places like India or Africa.
Your children are being loved and nurtured and provided for which is a whole lot more than alot of children get these days, and is much more important than material things - and God has promised to care for us, so don't you worry at all about what some nasty, narrow-minded people say to you. And it is narrow-minded of them, because you are living a different life from the masses, you're breaking the mold - you're a pioneer woman!
Just wanted to encourage you.
Rachel

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Posted by Cindeerella

You know it is no one's business but your own whether you are on food stamps, or how many children God gives you.
I think this is a reminder that we need to be careful about how much personal information we give out to the public on these blogs. Remember not everyone on here are friends or Christians so we need to be very guarded. If we choose to be free to expose our personal life we are opening our hearts, families, and our personal beliefs to attack....just be careful.

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Posted by Daisyblend

Ya'll are right and I appriciate your comments very much. I have considered limiting comments to registered users only for the sake of accountablity and may yet do that. I've also considered not blogging at all! Why should I put my life out there for everyone to critique? But, I believe from the majority of my comments recently and in the past that what I share is a blessing to most and so I keep on. I'll just keep taking it one prayerful day at a time.

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Posted by gabbie427

I am so sorry people are making nasty comments about such things!!! God has blessed you with the number of children you have, and He alone provides for your family through other means, jobs, food shelters, side jobs, gardening, etc.
Don't let that other person bother you a bit. You are living your life the way would intend you to!!

God's Blessings,
Amy Jo

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