A Quiet Little Woman

Victory Over the Dating Spirit

On sunday I watched the most WONDERFUL video, I think that everyone should watch it!  It was a talk by Dr S.M. Davis entitled "Victory over the Dating Spirit".  I kept stopping, rewinding and rewinding again to get down on paper some very important thoughts.  He has a list for both parents and youth of things that they can do either themselves or to help their children.  Today I'm going to post the list for youth and then if anyone is interested I'll post the one for parents. 

VICTORY OVER THE DATING SPIRIT

Dr. Davis talked a lot about how there are a lot of people that are committed to courtship or something like it and yet they have what he calls a "dating spirit" where they still allow their minds to wander and wonder...  Here are the 8 things that he listed for youth to do:

1) GIVE YOUR HEARTS FULLY TO YOUR PARENTS - consider you parents and yourself a TEAM... a team against the devil and FOR the LORD.  I've never been taught that I need to give my heart to my parents, but the last year or so I've really been thinking that they really can be my best helpers in keeping my heart whole!

2) MEMORIZE AND MEDITATE UPON SCRIPTURE - Psalms 37:4 "Delight thyself in the LORD and HE will give thee the desires of thine heart."

3) THINK HOW EXCITING IT WOULD BE TO GIVE YOUR WHOLE HEART TO YOUR MATE!!! - we don't want to just have a little piece of our heart left for our husband or wife... we don't want ANYTHING missing!!

4) WHEN TEMPTED, PRAY FOR YOUR FUTURE MATE!! - I've been doing this since sunday and it makes a huge difference!  Whenever my thoughts start to wander... I just start praying for whoever I am to marry and I take whatever I was just thinking of and turn it into something good... like yesterday I was working at our apple press and there were some men there helping us and I just tried my hardest to turn those thoughts into thoughts for my husband... praying that he would be blessed with strength and thinking how much fun it will be when he is beside me... maybe even helping me with cider!!

5) GET A VISION BIGGER THAN YOURSELF THAT WILL MOTIVATE YOU TO GIVE A PERIOD OF TIME TO GOD'S WORK - this one took awhile for me to understand... but yesterday I read an article in "Above Rubies" titled "The Family Charge" and in it Nancy Campbell talked about how the only way to change the world for the better is to make ourselves good and then have children who help to carry on that goodness... and have LOTS of children!!  Dr. Davis said that we need to get a vision bigger than just our future husband/wife.. but think of our future children and their children and their children and on and on!!  In our life we are laying a foundation that our posterity will build on... is it secure and firm??

6) DECIDE TO DELIGHT IN YOUR PARENT'S PROTECTION - they only have our good in mind!!  Just like in a rainstorm we are grateful for an umbrella... we can be grateful that they are willing to protect us from the evil out there and be our UMBRELLA in the downpour.

7) BE WILLING TO BE LAUGHED AT BY THOSE WHO DO NOT UNDERSTAND!! - when David went out to slay Goliath his brothers asked him WHAT he was doing and kind of laughed at him and he said "IS THERE NOT A CAUSE!??"  We have a cause... be willing to have people laugh at you!!

8) GO TO SLEEP AND WAIT ON GOD TO WAKE YOU UP!! - In Genesis we read that GOD put Adam to sleep and THEN and only then did he bring Eve to Adam... be willing to wait because GOD WANTS TO WORK A MIRACLE FOR YOU!!!!  LET HIM!!! 

We all make mistakes and we may not have a WHOLE heart to give our future mate... GOD through his SON has given us a way to be make clean and new... if we ask, he will give us a NEW HEART!!!  There are many times in scripture that HE was able to give people a new heart and to help them to change and become the people that HE needs to help his kingdom progress... Here are two more things that we need to do...

1) Ask God to forgive you for your dating heart and wandering mind and to give you a NEW HEART!!

2) Ask Mom and Dad to take your heart and to keep it safe and secure until the right person comes along to claim it!! 

One last thought to leave with you... "Don't ever let a sick world laugh at you because you have enough sense to stay morally and spiritually healthy by NOT drinking out or their polluted and contaminated wells of life!"  Change your life and make a difference in the WORLD by following what GOD has in store for you!!

Alex 

p.s. sorry it's so long!!

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01:29, Tuesday, October 23, 2007 .. Posted by blessedmomof10

Alex,
I have some of Davis' tapes..... he is a very powerful speaker...........

I loved your post and what you wrote and would add that the most important thing you ca do at this season of your life is to give your heart to CHRIST........ if your focus is in serving HIM ~ then He will take over the rest for you in HIS perfect timing!

Love you!
Sister P

Hi Alex

02:28, Tuesday, October 23, 2007 .. Posted by MissionaryMom

Hmm. You probably aren't so far from me. We are in western Colorado. We travelled through the bottom half of your state last summer.

Good thoughts about dating. The Bible does say, "Don't stir up or awaken love until its time" Ecclesiastes. It sure makes sense to wait on God and save your heart from a lot of pain! I know it is hard to wait, but it is so worth it!

Carol

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02:39, Thursday, November 1, 2007 .. Posted by hcorbin

Keep up the path you are on!!! You will be blessed and saved a TON of heartache. I ran a teen pregnancy program for 5 years, let me tell you that there is a TON of heartache out there!!!!
Heather