Thunderwolf Ranch

Michelle and the grand babies and a bad day

I have to write about this because I am mad as a wet hen.

A few weeks ago Michelle told hubby and I we could have the grand-babies over night when she came down to go to court to divorce her husband.  We got all happy and could not wait for the day, hubby even planned to get off work early.

Well today was the day.  Michelle called and asked when it would be ok to bring over the babies I told her an hour.  She comes over walks in and we kiss and hug the babies and she tells me she does not know how long we will have the babies.  I ask why , she tells me that Ryan has decided that he wants the babies to stay with Michelle.  Ryan is her live in boyfriend (not her husband)  that told her a few months ago that "he can't f***in (the f word) stand her children".  She left him and moved back down here.  But know he is everything to her, even though 1.5 weeks ago she was telling me how she might be leaving him again.

So any way Ryan would not let us have the babies over night.  He is not the kids dad, he is just Michelle's on and off again boyfriend.  He is just an easy ride for Michelle.

So Michelle and I got into it.  After all we have done for her and the babies and even Ryan , they pull this?

Michell is our daughter and we love her but we will never have a good bond with her.  Not even as Michelle being an adult.  She just likes to play games  and hurt us.

I just had to vent.  She wants to come over in the after noon tomorrow, we will see.  I wan to see the babies , but I do not know about her. 

P.S. she had her mother -in- law in the car to see the grand-babies it is 9pm when she picked them up!  We could not keep them because Ryan said the kids need to stay with Michelle and stay on the bed time they set, but it changes when her soon to be ex-mom-in-law wants to see the babies.

God Bless. mj

Stay tuned for more on the Michelle saga..........................

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{ 02:52, 2008-Apr-1 } { Posted by countrylivin }

Sorry to hear you had such a bad day! I think I would be real mad as well! I will be praying.

games people play

{ 04:49, 2008-Apr-1 } { Posted by Anonymous }

I'm very sorry to hear of more drama with your daughter. It sounds like she is being manipulated and controlled by the b/f. I know you love your grandkids and worry for them, but having been in Michelles' shoes many years ago & knowing the 'rules' will constantly change according to her b'f/s whims... one way to help her see he's not good for her (or her babies) is to step out of the picture for a while. If you can practice 'tough love' and NOT be there for her until she's ready to permanently break with him, it'll happen sooner. (I'm assuming your opinion is that sooner would be best).
I have no place giving you my opinions here, but having once been in place of desperation without my parents there to bail me out, (and baby twins in hand) I really am speaking from my gut.
Good luck to you all in dealing with this situation, and may God steer things for the best!!

Forgivness

{ 08:50, 2008-Apr-1 } { Posted by Handmaiden }

I just read your past blogs and my heart goes out to you. This is all very stressful for you and the rest of your family. I am not one to give advise, but I know what has helped me with some of my children and their problems. I adopted 4 siblings that came from very abusive backgrounds. I have found forgiveness is the only way to handle difficult and heartbreaking circumstances. When we forgive we recieve peace and hope and it keeps open the lines of communication with those we forgive. The Savior has already suffered for our sins he has already given us the gift of eternal life. Our job is to forgive any and all that offend us, as He has forgiven us. I have been a student of unconditional love. It seems that those who are the least loveable need the most love. You can have a positive influence in your daughters life and be an anchor and safe harbor for her and your grandchildren. If we don't take offence to others thoughtless actions we are better able to serve them. I think she needs you but doesn't know how to express her feelings, and does thoughtless things. I do not mean that she should be allowed tovwalk all over you, but that you control what you can and cannot do in her and the babies behalf. As she feels your unconditional love, I think things will gradually change. It all takes time. I have 18 children, 15 in-law children, and 34 grandchildren. Unconditional love works. forgivness works. Blessings to you