Thunderwolf Ranch

Michelle

Michelle, we do not understand her.   She moved back down here 5 + months ago.  She has not worked a single day, at all.   As you know she is having another baby.   She is going to school to be a nurse.  But she has not worked a day.   She lives with her new boyfriend and his parents.   Michelle has 2 babies at this time, plus the new one who will be here this spring.   What we do not understand is why she will not support the two babies she has now.  She expects all of us in the family to buy them all the food, clothes, diapers, I am mean everything.   We do not mind helping her and the grand-babies out, but we feel like Michelle needs to do her part.    She is the mom she needs to step up and start to pay for the her children, our grand-babies. 

Today she gave me a list of food she wants me to buy for her and her boyfriend and the grand-babies.   We have 3 freezers in our home a well stocked, over stocked pantry, so I will give them food from there.   We stock up to be able to help any one in need.

I just needed to vent a bit.  We just understand why she refuses to get on her feet to take care of the babies she has and the one she is expecting.  

God Bless, mj

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{ 07:50, 2008-Jul-31 } { Posted by seventhheaven }

Maybe as hard as it may be you may have to tell her no. Why work if you know someone else will step in and fit the bills and feed you. Of course I understand the concern about the babies. It is a hard situation to be in .

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{ 05:53, 2008-Aug-1 } { Posted by homesteadinthemaking }

MJ,
All I can say is that I am so sorry you are having to deal with this.
Trixi

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{ 10:42, 2008-Aug-1 } { Posted by Jonash2004 }

My brothers are in "take" mode, too. And they are going to keep taking from my parents as long as my parents will keep dishing out. It upsets me to watch from the outside. : It's like my parents can't catch on. They are convinced that if they don't give my brothers money/cell phones/car co-signing it won't happen. Maybe it won't, and maybe that's okay. They are young and single and I don't think my parents are letting them get a taste of the real world.

It would be even harder in your position with grandkids involved. :(

She probably justifies it somehow, that you have always helped out and it's just your way of being a good grandma, or that it's just too much to handle on her own or something.

Just some thoughts. I really wish people grew up, but some just avoid responsibility!

Ashley