Our Little Cottage

Battling Doubts as a Homemaker

I've been holding onto this post for awhile.  So when I say, "Did you see Oprah yesterday?"...it was actually a couple months or so ago!  Sorry.

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Did you catch Oprah yesterday?

It was about Cathie Black's new book, How to be a Star at Work and at Home.  I thought that I really wouldn't get too much from this show because I do not have a career outside of my home.  But, I did actually come away with a couple of things.

This is a quote from the show with Cathie Black...

'Live your best life 'Live the best life you can have," she says.  "It's not the life your parents said you should live or your boyfriend...It is saying, 'What do I want?  What's going to satisfy me?"

What do I want?  What's going to satisfy me?

Wow...those are some good questions!  They may even need some time to really dig deep down to figure out some good answers.

If I would answer, what I want and what would satisfy me is a happy marriage, happy children and a happy home.  Would some take that as I'm not really thinking of myself at all?  My answer is based on the "happiness" of husband, children, and home.  Maybe I do need more for just me....

Some will then suggest, "You should go out to better yourself."  "Huh?  What is wrong with who I am now?"  Uh oh, here comes the doubt.  Am I making the best choices for me?  What about me?  Don't I deserve more?  Shouldn't I be "out there" doing more?  Contributing something?  Maybe, just maybe...I'm not the best me.  Maybe I am cheating myself of something better...out there!

Here is another quote from the show by Cathie Black...

Finding satisfaction can mean striving for what Cathie calls a "360-degree life"--balancing your time among family, career, and passions.  "At the end of the day, you can love your job, but your job is not going to love you back," Cathie says.

Finding my satisfaction...Looking even deeper within my heart and soul I do know that I have forever had a pull towards home.  And once I was there...I was relieved!  {Insert a big, huge, deep, cleansing sigh}...I'm home.

"Balancing your time among family, career, and passions"....with me those three are all ONE!  My family is my career, my passions begin with my family, and I am passionate about my career as a homemaker! 

If you feel that you are trying so hard to balance time between your family, your career, and your passions...try thinking as I do...I don't have to figure out how to balance my time...I will hold it all in close to me, close to my heart...then there is no trying to balance at all!  You are steady and able to move forward!

With the last line of the 2nd quote it is really puzzling to me that there are women who will go to a job/career that "at the end of the day you can love your job, but your job is not going to love you back."  Wow.  Being a Lifelong Homemaker my "job/career" will ALWAYS be there to love me back!  Even to appreciate and adore me for what I contribute each and every day.

Everyone has doubt from time to time of their own paths in life.  Even us happy homemakers.  We think, for just a moment or two, maybe there are some truths to the "going out to better yourselves".  Then we giggle to ourselves, shake our heads, and roll our eyes...look around and catch a glance at the loving husband we serve, listen to the laughter of our children we enjoy, and take pride in the cozy home we have created...really, what could be better?

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