Have you heard the latest "terms of endearment" for the young women today? I won't even begin to share those here. If you haven't heard them, chances are you haven't exposed your daughters to it. If you HAVE then you know They Deserve Better!
I want to say that society is responsible and in a way it is. However, it's an elite side of society that has turned this into an expected position for women today. Those elite are the feminazi's. Heard of those? I have a theory. (who doesn't?:P) Through observation, I have figured that the difference between a feminist and a feminazi is the feminist hates men. The feminazi hate women who love men. Make sense?
There was a time when we called them "bra burners". Now it's become an accepted term and the meaning is softened and many Christian women even buy into it! There is no question about equality. Actually equality has always existed between man and woman. God created woman to be mans partner for life. He didn't create woman to be on her knees before man, under his foot, a slave to him. He created woman to "help" man. To "share" his burdens. You see? It's always been!
Those women who feel threatened in some way by men, are insecure within themselves. Those women who seem so sure of themselves, who seem in control of their lives, who are "equal", are insecure, fearful and unhappy. On the outside they will show their strength by putting down men both verbally and emotionally. They will never hesitate to talk badly about their boyfriend, husband, brother and father. They pass it off as a joke. Always funny to hear about how a woman is smarter than a man. But is it? I personally find it sad, frustrating and downright angering.
Our daughters are being taught the same thing! Those sitcoms on television...when was the last one you watched that actually uplifted the father/husband/brother? And I'm not speaking of the Christian channel or old television shows, I'm speaking of todays television. Today's outlook. When was the last time you heard the wife say to her friend, "I'll have to ask my husband if that's okay first and I'll let you know"? Or "Thanks Bro, you sure saved the day"?
Today's programming is poisoning our daughters hearts and minds. It's molding them into women who will have no respect for their fathers, brothers and eventually husbands. Provided they have not been talked into relying on another woman for her needs (and wants).
This is not the only area where our girls are being influenced. Our girls are also influenced by the company they keep. Friends who are taught these very things. Those "friends" we allow our daughters to have, have such a strong influence over them that often we are unaware until it's too late. When those attitudes seep in and taint their relationships with their fathers and brothers. Those are the friends that many Christian parents believe THEIR child will be a good influence on. The ones we say are "good girls deep down". Jesus taught that His followers should travel together not alone. We should never expose ourselves to these temptations and influences alone. It's dangerous to our walk. It is so easy to be turned around and before you know it, you are laughing at those inappropriate jokes, even sharing a few of your own. Complaining, in a joking way, about your husband or son or brother.
There was a time when I thought that was funny too. When I didn't give it a second thought to join in on those moments of tearing down my husband, sons and brothers. Often right in front of them! Why? Because it was funny? No! It was because I was insensitive, unloving, and completely in the wrong. God was not pleased.
It has been many years since all these things were a daily part of my life. I still see the aftermath of those days in my children from time to time. Poisoned by me! But I also see children who now struggle to do what is right. Daughters who sometimes allow their frustration to boil over and spouting words of anger and spitefulness. It's not often but now and then it happens.
Me? Not any more. I love my husband. I don't want to do anything that would hurt him. I don't want anyone to think that I don't respect my husband or that I think he is beneath me in any way. My daughters see their father as their protector, their teacher, their knight in shining armor:) The father that is there for them throughout all their ups and downs. Who takes care of them when they are sick or hurt. Who comforts them when they are hurting. Who shows them direction and compassion all at the same time.
All of us have daughters that deserve so much better than society is willing to give them. The women of today (and I speak of the women who believe that they must be superior to men), despise the daughters who are respectful and loving to their fathers, brothers and eventually husbands.
Like myself, they will hear the name calling. Slave! Stupid! Brainwashed! Used! Abused!
I admit that there are those that are in abusive situations and that isn't right. I am speaking only of those who are in godly situations. Women who know that there is no shame in being a submissive wife. A strong mother is a mother who is willing to show her daughters, by example, what a loving and respectful and fulfilling marriage is.
Take your daughters back. Save them from those influences that are turning them from their God given roles. Show them how wonderful their ultimate relationship with their husbands, sons and brothers can be. The deserve better:)
God be with thee!
Sister Lori
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Sunday, September 21, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by miniumgallegos
Sister Lori,
It truly is amazing you posted this! God is working on many of our hearts! I have been involved in many studies that have helped me in the past year or two to help me realize what being a true helpmeet is. Homeschooling with a Meek & Quiet Spirit started my journey. I felt like I really didn't have a meek & quiet spirit, and so I continued my journey. It's not always been easy--for a while I felt like I was being a true helpmeet to my husband until I read the about the the little girl who was told to sit down and she "sat down but thought I'm still standing up on the inside!!" Those were the thoughts I had as I became a helpmeet--I still struggled with those outward influences, society, tv, friends and worse yet, my own mother, who tried to convince me I was a slave, a servant, why did I ever get a degree if I was destined to "staty at home." It has been a journey indeed. This week I spent a week at the beach with my family and my mom & dad. My mother constantly said, "sit down Jill, your not a servant, I can get my own...or they can get their own...." I tried in many ways to explain to her that I wasn't a servant but that I loved to serve my family and my husband and they in turn blessed me from my blessings to them. Unfortunately, she just doesn't get it yet. I have tried explaining to her about God's plan from Genesis about being a helpmeet. I have led her to scripture. She's just not ready yet. It almost ruined my week. I started falling into the 'world' again. Feeling like a slave, giving those looks to my husband, "sitting down, but standing up on the inside" Then, I took up my bible study I hadn't yet finished "On the Other Side of the Garden" and finished the book--by the second paragraph, I got up and loved on my husband and told him how much I appreciate him. God was there with me that week. He was waiting on me to finish my book. We ended up having a great week and I felt such a peace. But it is easy to fall back into the trappings of what society thinks we should feel, think & do. I realize I need to cling to scripture, & my bible studies that help lift me up. I just felt I had to share this with you. My daughter (15) was going through the same thoughts as she saw her nana calling me a servant, she felt like one when I asked her to help out. It's amazing what the world and influences can do in such a short amount of time. I'm glad to say we are back at home--and back to normal! One other blessing that happened that week was I was saved or baptized in the wonderful ocean God created. My husband and I read scripture and dedicated our lives to Christ. Okay, so many may not agree and say it's not traditional--but I feel in my heart that God agreed and He is happy--and so are we! (my 12 year old son did so as well--we were thrilled with his decision!)
Blessings,
Jill
Sunday, September 21, 2008 - <em>Untitled Comment</em>
Posted by gabbie427
Our pastor mentioned this not too long ago. He mentioned several tv shows in which the woman and kids poke fun at what an idiot the father is (how about some oldies like Tool Time, Rosanne, and many others!)
As you said, you don't hear comments like, I will have to talk about this with my hubby and get back to you about it except possibly on old Seventh Heaven reruns. Girls are woman are being taught not to respect their husbands or fathers and to "be their own boss" whether it be at home, school, etc.
I certainly think our daughters should be taught differently that what society is teaching them, but as a mom of a son, I think he needs to be taught a few things too! Boys don't respect their wives in alot of tv shows or society either. For once, I would love to see a boy open a door for a girl, or help her step over a mud puddle, help an old lady across the street, help their mother carry in the groceries without being asked. And the boys need ot be taught that women are not a possession and are hunman beings with feelings.
It is a sad sad world we live in. We can't just leave all the teachings to others, to public schools, society, TV, radio, magazines, and newspapers!
God's Blessings,
Amy Jo
~~~~~You are absolutely right! And since that is another of my peeves I will be sharing my thoughts and experiences on that as well. Our sons SHOULD know how to be a husband. It is just as important as our girls knowing how to be a wife!
God be with thee!
Sister Lori
Edited by SisterLori on Monday, September 22, 2008 at 12:05
Monday, December 1, 2008 - Our Daughters
Posted by ReginaS
Thanks for posting this Sister Lori. Our daughters are being brainwashed by worldly ideas that wives are superior to their husbands and are smarter than they are. Even in Christian circles when some women get together they say such terrible things about their husbands. It's very sad to see this happening. We used to watch a show called Jon and Kate Plus 8 which is about a family raising two sets of multiples. We stopped watching the show and it has been banned from our home because Kate is so rude and disrespectful to her huband Jon. We felt we could not allow that kind of influence in our daughters(we have three) minds.